Brandy of Brandy’s Brood tried the Pearls’ method and found it to have a very negative impact on their toddler so they gave up spanking and moved towards more gentle discipline. She tells her story in her post, Ask Brandy: Discipline. While still using non-corporal punishments, they strive to be gentle and are still on their learning journey. <3
I do feel compelled to mention that she highly recommends Lisa Whelchel’s Creative Corrections. I do not. While I’m sure it contains some very good ideas, it also contains some bad ones, including putting a drop of hot sauce on a child’s tongue for lying.
For more information about Creative Corrections, please see psychological torture as ‘creative correction’
Note: Brandy has apparently lost her domain and her entire blog. I am leaving this post up because of the information about Lisa Whelchel.
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I didn’t like that part (or vinegar alternative) either. And I completely skipped over the spanking chapter. We’ve thought off and on about giving up Time Outs too … but I’m honestly not sure what else to do instead.
What do you do for discipline?
Dear Brandy, I am so happy to see you here! <3 Thank you so much for asking. My children are young adults and I parented them very much as you did. I wish I had found the resources I share here when my children were young. That is why I have started sharing Gentle Parenting articles here. There is a treasure trove of information here which I pray you will find helpful.
You might start with my toobox tag.
Someone from Gentle Christian Mothers who also likes this site gave me the link to this article. I’m glad she did
I’ll definitely check out those links you mentioned. Thank you!
An additional thought about “hot saucing” and its related practices occurred to me today while I was out grocery shopping with a friend.
My friend has asthma, and nearly had an attack due to the changing temps moving from building to parking lot to car, etc. And I remembered that the first time I ever saw her in the throws of a fullblown asthma attack was when she accidentally bit into a hot pepper in her food…..
It is scary to think that a parent might easily land a child in the emergency room with this kind of treatment. Quite apart from any other considerations, this alone should make it taboo as “potentially life-threatening”!
Wow, that is a very good point.