If You were Spanked, Are You Really OK?

Dara Stoltzfus asks those who were spanked if they are really okay.  Her questions are sure food for thought.

She also looks at how children develop trust that God hears us.  The answer might surprise you.

How Will They Learn Without Spankings?

Dara Stoltzfus considers the question, “How will kids learn if you don’t give them consequences?” as she again looks at training dogs.

Mothering By Grace Reviews Shepherding A Child’s Heart

I just found this excellent review of Tedd Tripp’s Book, Shepherding A Child’s Heart at Mothering By Grace.

Bringing Out The Best In Our Children

Sara Mae shares how spanking was affecting her 2 1/2 year old’s self esteem and why she and her husband decided to stop in How Gentleness Makes Our Children Great.

Dara Stoltzfus also has noticed the importance of  a child’s self-worth and explains how we can encourage their inner beauty in Princes and Princesses on the Inside.

 

 

Reasons Not To Spank

Dara Stoltzfus has been thinking about Euphemisms as she gives us 20 Reasons not to Spank.

And for more food for thought from Dara, check out her thoughts on Abortion: A private matter?

Children as Sinners?

Samuel Martin has the following to say about his essay, O Wretched Child that I am.

This text may be the most important New Testament scripture for those parents who have small children – I Corinthians 2:11. “For who knows a person’s thoughts except the spirit of that person, which is in him?” – Why? Read why here!

He also said this about the same post:

“At one year of age, man is a king, fondled and doted upon by all. At two and three he is a pig, groping in the garbage. At ten he prances around like a kid. At twenty he is a horse, preening himself in search of a wife.” – This post covers a lot of ground surrounding Paul’s view of himself and how we can especially relate that issue to how we view our children.

He also has an interesting look at child rearing in Biblical times:
One day we won’t have to keep them so close, but until then: Hang on tight – Part One
One day we won’t have to keep them so close, but until then: Hang on tight – Part Two

Fruits Of Not Spanking

Dara Stoltzfus writes about the compassion of a child who was never spanked in Tori Story: More fruit of not spanking/hitting my kids .

Along the same line she writes about the difference between those who have become inured to violence and the child who has never been hit and is therefore shocked by violence in Reacting to violence: “Been there done that”.

Parallels Between Training Children and Training Dogs?

Dara Stoltzfus has 2 recent posts of interest.

In Michael Pearl is right about training kids like dogs! she discusses pain and it’s usefulness in training children and dogs.

In Crying over a Spanish Soap Opera!!! she discusses how raising children by learned traditions instead of by science and truth can damage them.

The Christian and The Explosive Child

Wendy at Practical Theology for Women shares A Christian Perspective on the Explosive Child.  In this post  she recommends the very helpful book, The Explosive Child by Ross W. Greene.

I see that she also has her own Rod Study as well as a look at Discipline vs. Punishment.

Would Jesus spank?

Flowermama looks at the question, “Would Jesus Spank?” As she looks at the Character of God as revealed in Scripture, her answer is, no. Of course, she does touch on the Rod of Proverbs.

Speaking of the Proverbial Rod, Tia Lynn looks at the question, Are The Rod Verses Literal or Figurative? Excellent post, I don’t know how it has taken me so long to find it.

Obedience and Fear

Do your children fear getting in trouble?  Dara Stoltzfus shows us how dangerous it can be for children to fear their parents in a *very* sensitive post. Honestly, I wish I had never read this post.  It is so disturbing that I will just summarize it for the sensitive.  A 9 year old girl put herself into the worse situation imaginable because she was more afraid of getting in trouble than she was of a stranger. Horrific.  Why would a child who had done nothing wrong be afraid to go home and instead seek refuge with a stranger?  Please don’t allow your children to be afraid of you.  Even a child who has done something wrong should not be afraid of their parents.  Perfect love casts out all fear.

So, how should we get our children to obey?  Please see what MamaPsalmist has to say about  Obedience.

More Thoughts About the Rod in Proverbs

Claire from Dare to Disciple has some thoughts about the Rod of Correction in Proverb 23:11.

 

Pain and Punishment

Dara Stoltzfus looks at pain and whether or not is is useful for teaching.

The Ways In Which We Argue About Spanking

Carissa Robinson looks at the various was of Arguing About Spanking.

Afraid of a World Run By Adults Who Were Never Spanked?

Have you seen the Facebook meme about being afraid of a world run by adults who were never spanked?  Well, Dara Stoltzfus Imagines such a world.

More Reasons Not to Spank

Joy explains Why She Doesn’t Spank Her Children Anymore.

Samuel Martin Looks at What The Bible Says About Spanking

Samuel Martin takes a look at what the Bible says about spanking in Christian Scholars and Preachers Disagree on Spanking Children.

Learning Forgiveness

Many Christians teach that children must be punished for their misbehavior in order to learn. But what do they learn?  Do they need to be punished in order to forgive themselves? Dara Stoltzfus looks at what the Bible teaches about forgiveness and punishment in How to Teach Forgiveness.

Katie Botkin Looks at Spanking

Katie Botkin looks back at how spanking affected her childish behavior and discusses her problems with it in Corporality.

She then looks at how spanking can lead to acceptance of abuse and sexual disorders in Corporality, part II: When Love Is Pain.

Sarah’s Arguments Against Spanking

Sarah explains why she does not believe in spanking in a well researched and chatty post entitled, A person’s a person no matter how small.  She also answers some common arguments for spanking with counter arguments, which many will find helpful.

Punishment

Sarah at Under The Olive Branch shares a very thought provoking quote about punishment.

While you are there, check out her love story The Restoration of All Things.

Can Spanking Be Sexual Abuse?

Emeth Hesed has posted an explanation of something few talk about, the risks of normal, disciplinary spankings causing sexual dysfunction.  Of course, it doesn’t happen to all children, but is it worth the risk?

She explores spanking further in, To Spank or Not To Spank…Is Not The Question.

The Spiritual Cleansing of Children

Dara Stoltzfus looks at the spiritual cleansing of our children in How to “give your kids a bath”…spiritually….

While you’re on Dara’s blog, check out some of the other excellent posts she has in her Right side bar.

Do Children Distinguish Between Spanking and Hitting?

Molly reflects on how children view spanking, drawing on her own memories of Fighting Spanking.

Disassociating Corporal and Eternal Punishment

Samuel Martin looks at Corporal and Eternal Punishment in 3 parts:

Corporal and Eternal Punishment: Time to disconnect these two ideas once and for all – Part One
Corporal and Eternal Punishment: Time to disconnect these two ideas once and for all – Part Two
Corporal and Eternal Punishment: Time to disconnect these two ideas once and for all – Part Three

Get a Free PDF of Samuel Martin’s Book

Author Samuel Martin says in his latest blog post that he is now willing to send a free PDF of his book, Thy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me: Christians And The Spanking Controversy to anyone who emails him at info@biblechild.com to request it.
Edited to add:  Samuel Martin says,

I just saw on Amazon that hard copies of my book are selling for $207.33 US Dollars. Can that be possible? I can tell you that that is not right. If you do like to get a hard copy of my book (Thy Rod and Thy Staff, They Comfot Me: Christians and the Spanking Controversy – The first edition is still in print, but not for much longer), just call 1 800 204 2063 – Archives Book Shop – A great source for all of your new and used Christian book needs. But my free ebook is still free and remains free until corporal punishment/smacking/spanking of children ends – write info@biblechild.com to get yours.

Update: The free ebook version of the book is now available for download.

Does Discipline Mean To Spank?

Cultured Mama looks at the question, Does Discipline Mean To Spank?

 

It Starts With Our Views

Molly ponders The hypocrisy of children’s rights on Adventures in Parenting. I had similar thoughts when I heard a pastor mention that a pastor or Deacon must not be a striker (1 Tim 3:3 and Titus 1:7.) I whispered to my husband, “Ah, but they believe in striking children. Apparently they don’t consider children to be people.”

Also, veteran parent, Sally Clarkson, kicks off a new parenting series with Parenting: It all starts with your view of God.

Beat Your Child To Save Him From Hell?

Samuel Martin has posted an extended excerpt from Chapter 7 of his book, Thy Rod and Thy Staff, They Comfort Me: Christians and the Spanking Controversy, in which he looks at Proverbs 23:13-14, “Do not withhold correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell.”

By the way, someone told me that they were having a problem finding where to purchase Samuel Martin’s book because on Amazon they are charging $90.  Well, you may purchase it here for under $11.

Edited to add: You can now download Samuel Martin’s Book free here.  🙂

What We Can Learn From Modern Translations of The Bible

Samuel Martin explains why we should consider reading modern translations of the Bible when seeking to understand Proverbs 19:18.

Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying. (Proverbs 19:18 – King James Version)