Were You Hoping For A Perfect Child?

Ruvin, from By The Hui, looks at the Myth of The Perfect Child.  She is promising a mini-series so stay tuned.

Update:  Part 2, Mole Hills, is now up.

A Psychology Professor Critiques the Pearls’ Teachings

Southern Methodist University (SMU) in Dallas has uploaded a video from FOX News in which “SMU Psychology Professor George Holden, who specializes in child-parent relationships and positive child rearing, talks critically about Michael and Debi Pearl’s book “To Train Up A Child,” which advocates spanking.”  More information about Professor Holden here.

A Closer Look At The Pearls’ Teachings and Adoption

Christine Minich takes a look at The Pearls’ Teachings in:

The Disturbing World of The Pearls in which she looks at Doublespeak and Definitions as well as some examples of his abusive teachings.

and The Disturbing World of The Pearls Part 2 in which she takes a look at their heretical Theology.

Also, TulipGirl tries to shed some light on the underlying philosophy of the Pearls’ Teachings with On The Pearls And Parenting, Once Again.

The Toronto Sun has an article about the Pearls’ Teachings in Was child abused to death due to advice from book?

Missizzy posted a Recipe For Disaster on  the Websleuths.com message board which explains what happened to Lydia and Hanna.  You might be interested in the rest of the conversation, it is really quite interesting.  I hope it is ok for me to link to this.  If anyone objects, please email me at hermanalinda@whynottrainachild.com and I will remove this entire paragraph.

I also thought I’d mention this post from Civil Thoughts about Adoption Education because that is so important.

What is Grace Based Discipline?

The Web Magazine, Positively Feminine, is running a new series called, What Is Grace-Based Discipline? by PhenomoMom. I am quite impressed with this magazine and its contributors and suggest you check it out.

Ignoring Your Instincts?

God designed babies to be very needy and He gave mothers the instincts to attend to their baby’s needs.  This is why a baby’s cry affects mothers so negatively.  And yet mothers often try to squelch those instincts because a man has told them that their God given instincts were wrong.    For instance, Ezzo’s teachings have ruined many nursing relationships.  Check out this article from the Washington Post back in Feb 1999 about him which listed concerns pediatricians had about his teachings.

Even mothers who don’t buy into Ezzo’s teachings will often get convinced to allow their baby to “cry it out.”  Yet, back in 2005 a study was released that links prolonged crying in babies with lowered IQ points.  Crying has also been shown to cause undue stress in babies, risking their emotional health.  So, don’t ignore your instincts, pick your baby up and comfort him or her.  You cannot spoil a baby by holding him too much.