Christian arguments against the Pearls' teachings.
Samuel Martin asks us all to join him in praying for “the peace of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ on all under His sun suffering from family violence.”
Speaking of peace, Carissa Robinson encourages us to run to The Father with our problems for He will give us peace in Paideia, Part 3.
Carissa Robinson continues her look “at the true meaning of discipline, and how it has been warped by both Christian and secular philosophies and misconceptions about childhood” in Paideia, Part 2. In this post she looks at the meaning of the Greek word, Paideia, and how it has been translated throughout the New Testament.
For more about the meaning of Paideia, please see her interesting comments in this post, especially this one.
Carissa Robinson has started a new series called, Paideia, in which she looks “at the true meaning of discipline, and how it has been warped by both Christian and secular philosophies and misconceptions about childhood.”
She opens with a look at a toddler”s defiance, (or is it defiance?) in Paideia Part 1
Carissa Robinson looks at the various was of Arguing About Spanking.
Carissa Robinson shares that Gentle Parenting is not always a bed of roses and how to get through the hard times in Bumbling Along.
Carissa Robinson compares Fear-Based and Faith-Based Parenting. Which one one do you think glorifies God? Which one do you use?
For more help, check out this post by Pearl in Oyster (PIO) about how we can use our God-given hormones to help us parent better in Oxytocin and “Time In.”
Carissa Robinson delves into the question, “Does God Spank His Children?“
Carissa Robinson shares What Really Matters in a beautiful story of how she responded to a screaming fit with grace.
I have had so much to share lately that my Gentle Parenting posts have been building up. Here are some great posts to help you fill your Gentle Discipline Toolbox as well as encourage you in your Gentle Parenting.
Claire continues her Myth Busting at Dare To Disciple with Myth Busting 8: Breaking a lamb’s leg.
Dulce de Leche explains about Opening Up the GD Toolbox: Stories.
Carissa Robinson shares about Parenting Through Changes.
Pearl in Oyster continues her series 52 Tool Cards Double Feature: Empower your Kids and Encouragement.
Cultured Mama explains How to Raise a Human, Radically.
Sally Clarkson shares Her philosophy of parenting: Pondering Christ.
I have had so much to share lately that my Gentle Parenting links have been piling up.
Carissa Robinson describes Genuine Obedience.
Dulce De Leche explains about Gentle Parenting, that It’s a Lifestyle, Not an Event.
Claire continues her Myth Busting series with Myth Busting 6: “I could see it in her eyes”.
Greengem reminds us to keep Playful Parenting in our toolbox in My other car is a pterodactyl…
Pearl in Oyster (PIO) continues with her 52 Tool Cards series with 52 Tool Cards: Motivation and 52 Tool Cards: Follow Through.
In the previous piece we looked at how spanking/abuse negatively effects the development of empathy in children. We also saw that any type of physical punishment can cause aggressive tendencies in children and adults. Physical punishment also leads to anger in children and adults due to being hurt intentionally by the very people that are supposed to love and protect them. In this piece, we will see that fear is the main effect of hitting children. We will see that by teaching children that God wants them to be spanked, they often develop a fear of God which either strains their relationships with God or causes them to reject Him altogether. Finally, we will see that spanking “in love” is indeed harmful despite what many pro-spankers claim.
Fear-“That child needs the fear of the Lord put in him!”
We have all heard that line from pro-spankers a number of times. As I pointed out Part 5 in my series, “Spanking is NOT God’s Will,” putting the fear of God into a child is one of the primary reasons people spank children. They use fear and respect as interchangeable concepts when they have no similarities in their meanings. (See Part 6 of “The Christian History of Spanking for more info). Fear is indeed the primary effect experienced by all children who are physically punished whether mildly or severely. Pain is why physical punishment is effective, though only temporally, as most humans are afraid of pain and will usually do everything in their power to avoid it. It usually takes only 1 or 2 times of a young child being hit for him/her to become afraid of getting spanked. Most pro-spankers, especially Christians, view this fear as a good thing, and even a must, in order to teach children to obey them and ultimately God. Yet, 2 Timothy 1:7 states, “For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.” And 1 John 4:18 says that there is no fear in love. Fear comes from satan. “Courage comes from God, while fear is what Satan tries to give us” (Meyer, 2011, p. 272). Throughout the Bible God tells His people not to be afraid of Him. [Read more...]
Carissa Robinson explains the concept of Disequilibrium and what it looks like for her 3 yr old who is Swiftly Approaching Disequilibrium. This concept is from a series of books by Louise Bates Ames & Frances L. Ilg about what age appropriate behavior you can expect from children at each age. Learning about this is very valuable as it allows her to make a game plan which she helpfully shares with us.
Carissa Robinson discusses Natural Consequences and gives 2 examples to help us along in our journey to gentle parenting.
And don’t miss this very important explanation of how being upset causes us to access the flight or fight part of our brains in 52 Tool Cards: Understand the Brain on Pearl in Oyster (PIO)
Carissa Robinson explains that “If you observe most recommended Christian parenting practices today, you might be surprised to discover a secular influence: behavioral psychology” in Awaken Their Hearts.
Meanwhile, Greenegem explains the error in thinking that we have to DO anything more than believe in order to be saved in No Assembly Required.
What message do children really take away from corporeal punishment? Carissa Robinson has asked some mothers what they remembered about being spanked and posts their thoughts and stories in What Do They Really Think?
Carissa Robinson shares a true story of how spanking affected one child growing up in Lock ‘Em Up, Throw Away the Key.
When is it abuse? Do bruises or the lack thereof have anything to do with it? If so, does it matter where the bruises are? Carissa Robinson considers this in a post called, Hodge Podge.
Carissa Robinson explains that we can’t expect grace filled parenting to be neat and easy in Growing Up Should Be Messy.
Carissa Robinson has a sweet story about how she learned to look at non-compliance in another light.
Carissa Robinson has a lovely blog post about how Thankfull she is that they are using gentle discipline, complete with an example of how it works. She also links to Sally Clarkson’s blog post about First Time Obedience. Sally Clarkson writes as the mother of adult children and reflects back on how her children were raised and how dangerous it is to try to use a formula for child raising, especially one which involves training.
Carissa Robinson has posted some fundamentals of gentle parenting. Just think of it as Parenting 101.
(Note that I also updated the post below this one with one new link)
Carissa Robinson reflects at how spanking is hitting no matter how it is done and then looks at what we can learn about God in the story of The Prodigal Son.
To help us expand our Gentle Discipline Toolbox, Carissa Robinson shares A Few Tools Which Have Worked For Her Sweet Little Guy.
Carissa Robinson has noticed that her 2 year old son is Growing Up and starting to learn the lessons which she and her husband have been so gently and patiently teaching them. What an encouraging post!
Carissa Robinson (at To Parent As One Who Has Been Richly Forgiven) has posted The Story of John Law and John Grace which is an allegory which explains the difference between living under the law and living under grace. She then goes on to explain why Christians, who are living under grace, should also raise their children under Grace.
Carissa Robinson has written a beautiful post called, Three Little Words, in which she shares an example of parenting by grace in the midst of a raging tantrum.
Carissa Robinson continues her explanation of what Gentle Discipline is not with what Gentle Discipline is not in What Gentle Discipline is Not, Continued Again 
. This post looks at “Gentle discipline is not something that occurs only when unacceptable behavior manifests itself” aka “Gentle Discipline is not sporadic.”
Here is the rest of her series, for your convenience:
What Gentle Discipline Is Not
What Gentle Discipline is Not, Continued. “Gentle Discipline is not adversarial”
Carissa Robinson continues her explanation of what Gentle Discipline is not in What Gentle Discipline is Not, Continued. This post looks at “Gentle Discipline is not adversarial!”
Those who desire to give up spanking need a viable alternative. My recommendation is Gentle Discipline aka Grace Based Discipline. Carissa Robinson shares what Gentle Discipline is not which is also helpful, especially to those who have rejected it because of a lack of understanding.
Carissa Robinson concludes her “Is Spanking Biblical?” series with Is Spanking Biblical? Part 4: Why We Have Chosen Not To.
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