Dealing With Big Feelings

MorningGloryGirl has a post at Dare To Disciple about Dealing With Children’s Big Feelings.

Gentle Parenting Is More Than Just Not Spanking

Dulce de Leche looks at the punitive mindset and how it affects our relationships with our children in It’s Not Just About Spanking.

Natural Consequences

Carissa Robinson discusses Natural Consequences and gives 2 examples to help us along in our journey to gentle parenting.

And don’t miss this very important explanation of how being upset causes us to access the flight or fight part of our brains in 52 Tool Cards: Understand the Brain on Pearl in Oyster (PIO)

 

 

Showing Your Children That You Believe in Them

Pearl In Oyster (PIO) shares yet another tool from her 52 Tool Cards series, Show Faith or in other words, show them that you believe that they can do it.

Another similar tool is to break tasks into Small Steps.

Gentle Parenting In Action

Libby Anne has a very interesting blog post about how being raised by the Pearls’ teachings affects her efforts to gently parent her daughter in Parenting Is Not A Contest.

For more examples of Gentle Parenting, check out Pearl in Oyster’s (PIO’s) play by play of one whole day day:

A Day in the Life, Part 1 – Morning Routine

A Day in the Life, Part 2 – getting out the door and running a few errands.

A Day in the Life, Part 3 – Library and Lunch

A Day in the Life, Part 4-The Rest of our Day

And allow  Greenegem to show you what Guiding with a rod looks like.

Discipleship and Autism

Greenegem shared about how she had to go to the hospital and how her son was diagnosed with autism back in July in Life: Where the Rubber Meets the Road. Now, almost 3 weeks later, she processes about her 2nd hospital stay and how it affected her 2 young sons in Adhesive: Life part 2.  In this post she also reflects more on her eldest son’s diagnosis of autism and how spanking would never have worked on him.  She shares some very important ideas here because much damage can be done by well meaning parents who believe that a child’s will must  be dominated.

A Wrong Turn On The Parenting Journey

Dulce de Leche shares how she made a Wrong Turn in her parenting and how she corrected it.  Here is more about Correcting the Course.

Gentle Discipline for Toddlers

The Hippie Housewife shares some great tips on Gentle Discipline for Toddlers.  This is a must read for anyone who is looking for the nitty gritty on how to deal with toddlers and keep their sanity at the same time.  😉

Fruits of Gentle Discipline

Dulce de Leche explains how she came to chose Gentle Discipline 7 years ago and examines the fruits of her decision in  7 Year Harvest.

Watching Your Language

Little Green Blog has a thought provoking post about watching our Language for the 2nd Annual Carnival of Gentle Discipline hosted at Parenting Gently.

Making It Happen vs Impatience

Pearl in Oyster (PIO) has a very thought provoking post about the difference between Making it Happen and Impatience. Note that this post contains some very helpful examples of gentle parenting.

Pearls from The Oyster

Pearl in Oyster (PIO) has a lot of great stuff on her site.  I have linked before to her series on 52 Tool Cards.  What a great way to fill your Gentle Discipline Toolbox!  You can read all her posts in that series here.

She also has some interesting Thoughts on Authority and Servant Leadership and a very important look at how much we can all learn by Trying Again.

Responses to Our Critics

pFamilyGal considers the question of whether it is right for Christians to condemn the Pearls’ teachings in Called to Judge.

Pearl In Oyster (PIO) responds to her critics in More Thoughts on Biblical Parenting where she discusses Divine Punishment vs. Grace, Spanking for Danger Situations and the Rod Verses.

Raised with Gentle Discipline

Dulce de Leche shares about Tony Hillerman, an author who was raised with Gentle Discipline.  This post should provide peace of mind for those who sometimes worry that raising their children with Gentle Discipline could lead to disaster.

Gentle Parenting Toolbox part 2

Dulce de Leche has posted part 2 of her teaching on the Gentle Discipline Toolbox.

Filling Your Gentle Discipline Toolbox

Pearl In Oyster, of An Apprenticeship in the Art of Gentle Discipline, has just started sharing 52 Tool Cards starting with Week 1: 3 Rs of Recovery. You’re going to want to follow her blog in order to read each episode of this series.

Damaging Effects of Punishment on Children

GreeneGem explains the damage  which was done to her by her mothers trampling on her Boundaries.

Speaking of damage, did you know that when babies are left to cry it out, their little bodies are being flooded with Cortisol?   Discipleship Parenting looks at what  effect that has on them.

Meanwhile Pearl, from An Apprenticeship in the Art of Gentle Discipline, looks at the Spiritual Discipline of Parenting to Sleep.

Gentle Parenting of Toddlers

Pearl In Oyster from An Apprenticeship in the Art of Gentle Discipline blog shares about how she gently disciplines her 2 and a half year old in Rubber Meets the Road.

Meanwhile, Carissa Robinson explains how she gently deals with Blatant Disobedience in her toddler.

Dealing With Anger

Claire at Dare to Disciple has a post about Dealing With Anger, or in other words, controlling our temper.

The Petite Chef Demonstrates Gentle Parenting

Dulce de Leche has been sharing about her 7 year old’s cooking skills.  Today’s blog post is not to be missed.  The sweet child has obviously been learning more than cooking by watching her mother.  <3

Gentle Discipline as a Second Language

Dulce de Leche explains the learning curve of Gentle Discipline by comparing it to learning a 2nd language. Well done and very helpful.

Control

The Peaceful Housewife doesn’t like to be controlled. Do you? Most people don’t.  😉 It shouldn’t come as any surprise that our children don’t like it much either.

Meanwhile, Dulce de Leche explains a bit of what not controlling your budding chef looks like.

Grace-Based Discipline and the Older Child

Here is an excellent article from Crystal Lutton, of Arms of Love, on how to use Grace-Based Discipline on the older child.

Gentle Discipline 102

So, if we should not spank our children, how then should we discipline them?  We have started looking at gentle discipline.

Purple Kangaroo has a long post explaining her methods of Handling Hitting and Hurtful Words.

So, what about time outs?  Are they a good tool?  The Peaceful Housewife looks at that in To The Time Out Corner .

The Peaceful Housewife recommends that you take a look at this post from Adventures in Mommyhood called What Is Gentle Discipline Anyways? It is part testimony and part What Gentle Discipline is NOT.  We will be watching for a follow up post of What Gentle Discipline IS in the near future.

I would also like to mention Dulce de Leche’s post about showing grace instead of punishments called, Wha’cha Gonna Do About It? in which she looks at the question of whether we should “let them get away with it.”  She shares a very touching example in this post.

Parenting 101

Carissa Robinson has posted some fundamentals of gentle parenting.  Just think of it as Parenting 101.

(Note that I also updated the post below this one with one new link)

Spanking is NOT God’s Will Part 8

More information on the Book, Gentle Firmness, by Stephanie Cox

( part 1 ) ( part 2 ) ( part 3 )

What is grace?  This is the question running through my head as I wrestle with a bit of discouragement as children continue to be harmed by well-meaning people who want so badly to obey God in their parenting.  As I continue to hear the same comments from pro-spankers who seem almost desperate to defend themselves for fear of being wrong.  As I hear on the morning news that two teenagers were shot and killed by their own mother because they were being “mouthy.”  As a book that advocates spanking infants may be being used by people that I know.  What is grace?  Who deserves grace?  Is the Bible Truth or something that can be used however we want in order to support our own beliefs?  What does it mean to be Spirit led and to take up our crosses and follow Jesus?  Why do some Christians proclaim, “God hates fags?”  Why is there so much division in the Body of Christ when God commands us to be “like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind” Philippians 2:2?

Another thing that keeps popping up in my mind and during my Bible study is the following verse:

“So he said to me, ‘This is the word of the LORD to Zerubbabel: ‘Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,’ says the LORD Almighty” Zechariah 4:6.

This verse is in context with an angel showing Zechariah a vision seemingly related to the coming of a future Messiah to rescue the people.  Yesterday in church, the pastor discussed the uneventful way that Jesus quietly came on the scene amidst the crowds that were waiting by the Jordan River in order to be baptized by a relative, John The Baptist (Matthew 3:13-17).  Everyone thought that the Messiah would come and mightily restore Israel with a mighty sword.  But instead, Jesus came as an infant and lived in humble settings.  He didn’t even look like a powerful king that everyone expected Him to be.  Look how Isaiah the prophet described Jesus: [Read more…]

Is Punishment Biblical?

Rach at The Incorrigible Gingers discusses the question, “Is Punishment Biblical?”  Notice that she is not just referring to corporal punishment here but all punishment.   Now, that is a really radical thought.

The Hows of Gentle Discipline

The Hippie Housewife explains The Hows of Gentle Discipline in a very helpful post.  This post is invaluable for anyone who wishes to give up spanking and needs help figuring out what to do instead.

Encouragement for Gentle Parents

Carissa Robinson has noticed that her 2 year old son is Growing Up and starting to learn the lessons which she and her husband have been so gently and patiently teaching them.  What an encouraging post!

John Law and John Grace

Carissa Robinson (at To Parent As One Who Has Been Richly Forgiven) has posted The Story of John Law and John Grace which is an allegory which explains the difference between living under the law and living under grace. She then goes on to explain why Christians, who are living under grace, should also raise their children under Grace.