Boundries

Don’t miss GreenGem’s latest post where she explains boundaries. While you’re there, also check out her previous post, Nice to meet you…Einstein! where she explains how children learn to do things themselves.

Really, you should subscribe to this blog’s RSS feed, because each post is a invaluable explanation of how spanking and punitive parenting damage our children and contribute to an adversarial relationship with them. Understanding how children think and reason is the first step to cultivating a positive relationship with them. We want to raise children who will eventually think for themselves. Anger and resentment will only lead to rebellion later in life. I cannot recommend this blog highly enough.

Entrapment

Do you ever entrap your children?  Read this blog entry from Dare to Disciple to learn more about entrapment.  Failure to heed this warning may lead to developing an adversarial relationship with your children.

Behaviour Modification

This blog post is exactly one year old today. I am linking to it because I just found it and have always found this topic interesting.  Behaviour Modification: Punishment by Hippie Housewife.  Here is a quote:

…Every day I hear the same parenting advice – punishment and rewards, threats and praise, negative and positive attention. In other words, the very definition of behaviour modification.

Does it work? That depends on what your goals are. If your goal is to get your child to mind you, then yes, it quite often does. However, for our own family’s goals, we have chosen not to use this system of behaviour modification. I’d like to share our reasons for this choice, today focusing in particular on the punishment side, saving the rewards/praise aspect for another day…

Here is her follow up post Behaviour Modification: Praise to which she alluded in that quote.

Is Spanking Biblical? Part 2: Hebrews 12

Carissa continues her series with Is Spanking Biblical? Part 2: Hebrews 12 where she looks at the book of Hebrews.

link to Problem With Cheerfully Punitive Parenting

I just added The problem with Cheerfully Punitive Parenting from Simple Gifts to Arguments against The Pearls’ Teachings