Spanking is NOT God’s Will Part 1

I am reading a wonderful book by theologian, Samuel Martin, Thy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me. It’s clear from historic, contextual, Hebrew info on the book of Proverbs that we are NOT to spank (hit) children. The book of Proverbs was not meant for verses to be taken out of context. Even Jewish scholars believe that spankings are for boys 12 years & up and only as an absolute LAST resort. Proverbs was written under the Law of Moses. Christians are under the Law of Christ.  What is the Law of Christ?  Grace, peace, mercy and love.  ” But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law”  Galatians 5:22-23.

Jesus freed us from the Law.  “But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law”  Galatians 5:18. When we spank, we are parenting under the Law.   We are not accepting the grace, mercy and forgiveness of Jesus.  Jesus died for us.  He was beaten to a bloody pulp for us.  Why do we feel we must beat, spank, and hit our young children who do not understand sin nor physical punishment.  “In regard to evil be infants” 1 Corinthians 14:20b.

Even Jewish scholars forbid the use of physical punishment for children under 6.  The very age Christian advocates of spanking say it’s best for.  Every time you hit a child, even “lovingly,” you create confusion, anger, fear, and resentment which breed sin later on.

Jesus says, “At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, “Who, then, is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?”

2 He called a little child to him, and placed the child among them. 3 And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. 4 Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. 5 And whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me.    6 “If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea. 7 Woe to the world because of the things that cause people to stumble! Such things must come, but woe to the person through whom they come” Matthew 18:1-6.

May our hearts and eyes be open to your Truth Lord Jesus!




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About Steph, M.S.Ed
I have my Master's Degree in Early Childhood Ed. My book, Gentle Firmness, is available everywhere!! Glory to God!!! My specialty is infants and toddlers. I have worked with many infants, toddlers, and preschoolers. I teach parents, college students, and professionals about the Resources for Infant Educarers (RIE) Approach. The RIE Approach is a very respectful, sensitive, responsive way of caring for infants and toddlers. I also love Dr. Sears' Attachment Parenting. I teach parents about how harmful spanking is, even when done "lovingly", and that God does not want us to spank (hit) children. I'm very passionate about God's Word and respect for children. I've been a Christ-follower since 1996. I'm married to a wonderful man who supports me in this 100%. He raised his son without spanking and his son is now a wonderful man. Thank you for reading my work! God bless!


  1. Zooey says:

    Well said!!

  2. dadblunders says:

    I am a stay-at-home dad and former Social Worker of Child Abuse Investigations. I just wrote an article “Is Spanking Child Abuse.” I wrote the article because I know in general spanking never leads to any good. Many parents use it at every opportunity for discipline issues. It is mainly used on young children that have no emotional control or understanding of the world.

    I know that when a parent strikes a child out of anger or frustration they are only reinforcing a loss of trust with a child. Children begin life with a bond of trust and their parents (safety is generally the first trust bond). The moment a child is hit the trust bond of safety is in question by the child. If a child sees you can’t be trusted with keeping them safe what else might you not be able to be trusted with. A child might not be as willing to share things with a parent later in life.

    I never criticized anyones beliefs in my article. I just asked people to make an informed decision, “Think before you act.” I have seen far too many children abused based on spanking (and the parents tell me its biblical). I have had many parents responding to me on twitter over my post telling me they will go with God’s will. I have also had a few parents tell me they have never thought about it in the way I wrote it.

    Thank you for making this site available and showing parents that “Spanking is not god’s will.”


    • Steph says:

      Thank you very much for your WONDERFUL comment, Aaron! Everything you said is absolutely spot on. Hurting children does so much harm. And it absolutely breaks children’s trust in their parents. This is not what God intended whatsoever.

      Thank you for writing your article! It is so important that we try to educate as many parents who are willing to be educated. I’d love to read your article! God bless.


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