Admin of Pro-Pearl Facebook Page Has Change of Heart

The admin of one of the To Train Up A Child fan pages has had a change of heart.  She was planning to delete the page, then people said that she should keep it to prevent others from using that name and could use the page to warn people.  Then someone said that the Pearls have copyright for that name and that they were going to report her, so I’m not sure what she is planning to do now.

In case she ends up deleting the page, here is her status from Sunday, Oct 2 11:52 am

Due to a change of heart by the admin, this page will be deleted in 24 hours. I only leave it up that long for this message to be read. I encourage all who genuinely like this page to reconsider and think about your actions. This book is NOT biblical. The older my children get the more I realize that I have failed them by following even a few of the principles encouraged by this book.

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This story has also been posted at ChucklesTravels with a screenshot of the Facebook Post.

Monday, Oct 3 at 6:32 pm she posted

I have started the process of deleting the page. It takes 14 days for it to go dark. For now the short version of my change is this. I had already been questioning the methods when one day my son hit me and I “smacked” him back saying “no don’t hit” and he looked at me like I had lost my mind. A 2 year old, smarter than his momma? I think so. Makes ZERO sense any way you look at it.

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Her wall has turned into quite the debate board and she is looking for more admins to help her out.  Meanwhile, someone made another fanpage using the same avatar and same name except instead of “To Train Up A Child, by Michael and Debi Pearl” it is “To Train Up A Child – by Michael and Debi Pearl.”  Do you see the difference?  It’s the punctuation.  And that person is calling her an atheist.  It is amazing to me that they equate being against spanking with not believing in God.

Update Oct 6, 2011:

The page has been deleted, which is for the best.

Joshua Skogerboe has a blog post about this called, Here’s To the Steady Decline Of Michael And Debi Pearl’s Influence…


  1. Christie on October 4, 2011 at 12:52 pm

    Wow Linda! That is unreal!
    I just found a website that has the OLD version of the book in its entirety.
    I printed it out, because I want to go back and re read some things that are not in the newer version. (I have been told this. I have never read the newer version)
    One thing I am finding is that their words have changed meanings, very much like a cult changes meanings of words.
    They say things like, “we don’t punish infants, we train them.” But they “train them” by “punishing” them. (switching) they just don’t use the words. I am also having trouble locating on their website what I saw before about using glue sticks and plumbing supply line.

    • Hermana Linda on October 4, 2011 at 1:40 pm

      Hi Christie,
      Thank you. I have that link already and refer to it often. What I don’t have is the newer version of the book. I am interested in where they differ. You are right, they do change a lot of definition. Very cultlike, now that you mention it.

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