A New Rod Study Starting

Jeanne, from Family That Matters, is starting a new Rod Study based on Samuel Martin’s book, Thy Rod And Thy Staff They Comfort Me. I’ll be linking to each chapter here.

Why using the rod on your child and spanking is not found in the Bible: An old truth in a new light. (Part 1)

Part 1 is also available in German, Spanish and French.

Why using the rod on your child and spanking is not found in the Bible: An old truth in a new light. (Part 2)

Part 2 is also available in German, Spanish and French.

Why using the rod on your child and spanking is not found in the Bible: An old truth in a new light. (Part 3)

Letter to A Pro-Spanker

The Melting Mom has written a letter to her pro-spanking friend to explain what she has learned about gentle parenting. This is a fantastic letter and I know that you will find it helpful.

I would also like to remind everyone that Gentle Christian Mothers is a very good place for mothers who are seeking to be gentle to find support.

Should Christian Parents Spank Their Children?

Rick Creech answers the question, Should Christian Parents Spank Their Children?  This is a very good article to share with fundamental Christians because it is written by a fundamental pastor who only uses the KJV.

More Reasons Not To Spank

Here are 2 new articles which explain why a Christian should reconsider spanking.

12 Biblical Reasons To Reconsider Spanking Your Kids By Shannon Wasie

6 Reasons Why We Changed Our Mind and Stopped Spanking by Sallie Borrink

Consequences of not spanking

Dara Stoltzfus tells us What Happens to Kids When You Don’t Spank.

What does the Bible REALLY say about spanking?

Eminent American Biblical Scholar Professor James D. Tabor looks at spanking in the United States and what the Bible really says about spanking in Spanking Children: The Bible Tells Me So?

 

About Adrian Peterson

Crystal Lutton discusses responses to the Adrian Peterson case.

Speaking of Crystal Lutton, she also explains what the Bible says about spanking.

When considering Adrian Peterson, Rebecca Diamond says that she was spanked and she turned out… well, you’ll have to read her post to find out.

Jennifer McGrail compares Adrian Peterson with Ray Rice in Hitting is Hitting is Hitting.

Well known NBA player, Kareem Abdul Jabbar condems spanking in Time Magazine.

Jennifer McGrail Reviews “Jesus, The Gentle Parent”

Jennifer McGrail Reviews “Jesus, The Gentle Parent” by L.R. Knost.

Here is a short excerpt from her review:

Not shying away from any of the tough questions, she tackles such issues as spanking, sin, authority, obedience and submission…. and what it all means (and doesn’t mean) –  to a gentle parent whose desire is to parent in Jesus’s footsteps.

Questions for Pro-Spankers

Here are 10 questions to ask those who believe that the Bible commands us to spank our children.

Excerpt From “Jesus, The Gentle Parent”

Here is an excerpt from L. R. Knost’s book, Jesus, The Gentle Parent which explains the Rod verses in Proverbs.

Here is a review of her book and a Giveaway from Positive Parenting.

A Father Of Four’s Journey To Gentle Discipline

Samuel Martin has shared a lovely letter from a father of four boys who decided to give up spanking after reading his book.  Here is a short excerpt.

…What mattered was that the Bible told us to spank. I figured we would talk it through and I would defend the biblical position. In my mind, if God said it, it was true (“Romans 3:4 “let God be found true, though every man be found a liar”). I wasn’t expecting what she hit me with. Every biblical argument I offered, she countered…

So, You Think Spanking Is OK Because You Turned Out Fine?

Samuel Martin has a new blog post entitled, “So you think corporal punishment/spanking/smacking is ok because you turned out fine: Think again”.

Why Heather Schopp Stopped Spanking

Heather Schopp explains how she came to give up spanking in this testimony shared on Samuel Martin’s blog. This blog post is part of a Facebook discussion found here.

Dara Stoltzfus has this and other testimonies here.

Gentle Firmness, now available!

Maybe you saw Steph’s series which previewed here in 2011. It started with, Spanking is NOT God’s Will, followed by The Christian History of Spanking, The Effects Of Spanking and ended with Discipline Without Harm.   Well, she has turned it into a Gentle Parenting book which is now available!  You can either order the print version or download e-book here.  If you would like an idea of what the book is like, there are still a few chapters of her rough draft here.  Congratulations Steph! May God be glorified.

Changing Minds About Spanking

Samuel Martin looks at who is changing their minds about spanking and who is not.

In other news, I have added a bunch of links to my post about the Resignation of Doug Phillips so you might want to take another look at it.

Sparing The Rod And Parental Discipleship

This article,“Sparing the Rod: Biblical Discipline and Parental Discipleship,” by Anne Eggebroten was published in the newsletter,  The Other Side in 1987.  In this long article, she not only explains why she gave up spanking and examines the link between discipline and discipleship, but she looks at the history of attitudes towards children.

Getting Rid Of Weeds

Dara Stoltzfus compares bad behavior in our children to Weeds in a Garden and comes up with some interesting allegories.

This is a little off topic, but I just came across a news story about a family who noticed their very gentle dog acting aggressively towards the baby sitter. They left a device under the couch to record and found out the awful truth.  I post this as a reminder to never dismiss strange behavior in animals or children.  When a small child or trusted pet suddenly shows explainable fear or aggression towards someone, take it as a red flag and investigate.

A Survivor Speaks

M. Dolon Hickmon shares about the abuse he endured while growing up and how being spanked “The Right Way” almost destroyed him in this (*triggering*) letter he wrote to Michael Pearl.  This post serves to introduce his Opus (a work of fiction)  which apparently needs backers. However, it does seem like it could be of interest to my audience, especially since works of fiction have been known to be the catalyst for social reform in many cases.  Some notable examples would be Uncle Tom’s Cabin, Ramona and The Grapes of Wrath.

Here is the author’s response to the question of why he doesn’t just get a publisher.

Update:  The book has been published and got a favorable Kirkus Review.

Calulu has a book review of M. Dolon Hickmon’s book 13:24.

**** Warning!  Book triggering for abuse survivors****

It is Not Abuse If It Doesn’t Leave a Mark?

Dara Stoltzfus considers the common assertion that Spanking Isn’t Abuse If It Doesn’t Leave A Mark.

Last Resort?

Claire reconsiders her plan to use spanking as a Last Resort.

Hebrews 12

Dulce de Leche takes a close look at Hebrews 12 to determine if it really condones spanking or not.

And When They Become Teenagers? Then What?

Cindy Foster of The Baptist Taliban blog explains why she no longer believes in spanking in, I’m Coming Out!

Along similar lines, Dara Stoltzfus has some interesting things to say about parenting teenagers in Spanking puts the parent in a bad autopilot mode…

And speaking of Dara, she also takes a very good look at the question, Does more spanking = less crime and delinquency?

She Was Spanked And Is Not OK

Dara Stoltzfus shares another story which explains how she was Spanked and Did Not Turn Out Okay.

On a side-note, here is a pamphlet which discusses more ways in which spanked children may not turn out ok.

 

Why Liz BR Does Not Spank

Liz Boltz Ranfeld explains why she and her husband Don’t Spank Their Kid in a well thought out post.  She has 5 main reasons which are fleshed out and explained.

1) Her child’s personality

2) Research

3) Occasional spanking so often turns into frequent spanking.

4) She’s not allowed to hit another adult; why should she be allowed to hit a child?

5) The scriptural support for corporal punishment is disturbing.

New Site: “20” Reasons Not To Spank

When Dara Stoltzfus made a blog post entitled, “20 Reasons Not To Spank,” she found that it kept growing. It got so large that she ended up creating a new site entirely for that post. She is now up to 119 reasons… so far. Without further ado, I bring you, “20” Reasons Not To Spank, the website.

Sylvia’s Thoughts On Spanking

Sylvia shares her testimony and Her Thoughts On Spanking in this post.

Why Rosemary Has Chosen Not To Spank

Rosemary shares “a collection of thoughts on why – especially the Biblical reasons why –” They’ve Chosen Not To Spank.

Bringing Out The Best In Our Children

Sara Mae shares how spanking was affecting her 2 1/2 year old’s self esteem and why she and her husband decided to stop in How Gentleness Makes Our Children Great.

Dara Stoltzfus also has noticed the importance of  a child’s self-worth and explains how we can encourage their inner beauty in Princes and Princesses on the Inside.

 

 

Reasons Not To Spank

Dara Stoltzfus has been thinking about Euphemisms as she gives us 20 Reasons not to Spank.

And for more food for thought from Dara, check out her thoughts on Abortion: A private matter?

Punishment Works?

Claire, over at Dare To Disciple, continues with her Myth Busting series with Punishment Works.