Should Christian Parents Spank Their Children?

Rick Creech answers the question, Should Christian Parents Spank Their Children?  This is a very good article to share with fundamental Christians because it is written by a fundamental pastor who only uses the KJV.

Not To Worry, Carri Williams Is Being Kept Safe

In case anyone was worried about how Carri Williams is faring in jail, the Skagit Valley Herald reports that she is being kept safe in one of the Work Release pods.  This was an upgrade from the Solitary Confinement cell she was in before, as they are not healthy to use  for long term use.  It’s nice to know that they are doing their best to be as humane as possible while she is paying the price for accidentally torturing her daughter to death.  Maybe she will start to understand the concept of grace, (unmerited favor.)

Meanwhile, Larry has been in custody for 2 years and the article does not mention what protective measures they have been using to keep him alive, but one must assume that they are in place.

Sentencing is scheduled for Tuesday, Oct 29.

Mothering By Grace Reviews Shepherding A Child’s Heart

I just found this excellent review of Tedd Tripp’s Book, Shepherding A Child’s Heart at Mothering By Grace.

Sarah’s Arguments Against Spanking

Sarah explains why she does not believe in spanking in a well researched and chatty post entitled, A person’s a person no matter how small.  She also answers some common arguments for spanking with counter arguments, which many will find helpful.

What Does the Bible Really Say About Parenting?

Dulce de Leche looks at what the Bible really says about parenting.  Note that this post is part of the 2012 Carnival of Gentle Discipline which you can find at the bottom of the post.

Looking at Grace

I would like to share 2 things with you about grace.

The first is a post from Gentle Christian Mothers and is an example of one of the reasons a Christian mom decided to not to spank.  You can see more reasons in the rest of that thread.

The other thing I found on Facebook: (scroll down for comments)

I think I would change “Repentant or Not” into “Saved or Not” but I still feel that this gives a good explanation of the difference between Religion and the Gospel.  It is also a good explanation of the difference between the Law and Grace.

And as my friend, Rachel Sullivan-Nightengale, said,

Likewise God directs us to discipline our children–NOT threatening or punishing, which result at best in fear-induced outward compliance–but instead discipling them, gently teaching and helping them learn to do what’s right out of love for God.

We strive to imitate the way our Heavenly Father disciplines us, even as adults. He doesn’t punish us–Jesus took our punishment in full. He does guide us with loving patience at our slowness to learn, time after time.

Praise God for His abundant GRACE! May He help us mirror His grace toward our children.

Thou Shalt Not Kill The Spirit of Thy Children

Dulce de Leche continues her 10 Commandments for Parents series with Thou Shalt Not Kill. In this post she discusses how parents often kill pieces of their children’s individuality.

Also, take note of this post by Sara Mae which looks at The Nature of A Child and why we should respond to their tantrums with grace.

Leaving The Patriarchy Movement

Becky at Created To Be His shares her testimony of how she fell into the false teachings of the patriarchy movement and the Pearls’ and the lessons she has learned since then.

Grace Is For Mothers, Too

The Hippie Housewife reminds us that grace is for mothers too in These Days Don’t Define You.

Contemplating Gentle Discipline

Molly contemplates what Gentle Discipline means to her in Beyond The Ideas.

How Should We Respond To Disobedient Children?

How should we treat our children when they disobey us?  Cultured Mama explores this question as she asks Does God Withdraw His Love from Sinners?

10 Commandments for Parents and 52 Tool Cards

Dulce de Leche continues her 10 Commandments For Parents series with The 10 Commandments for Parents: Taking His Name in Vain.

Pearl in Oyster (PIO) continues her 52 Tool Cards series with 52 Tool Cards Double Feature: Focus on Solutions and Problem Solving.

While we’re on the subject of gentle parenting, here is a Post from Momma on a Mission: Journey to Gentle Discipline.

Commandments for Parents

Dulce de Leche explains how some parents inadvertently set themselves up as idols in The 10 Commandments for Parents: No Other Gods.

Alison Strobel explains Golden Rule Parenting.

It’s Not Just About Spanking Children, It’s About Breaking Children

Former Pearl follower Becky, from Created To Be His, shares a letter she wrote explaining her concerns with the Pearls and their teachings.  In this letter she also explains what these teachings have to do with the death of Lydia Schatz and includes quotes from the book.

Responding To Children With Grace

Carissa Robinson shares What Really Matters in a beautiful story of how she responded to a screaming fit with grace.

Bill Gothard and His Definition of Grace

Cindy of Under Much Grace explains more about Bill Gothard and his erroneous definition of grace in Merging Justification and Sanctification: More About Gothard’s Thanksgiving Letter and Concerns About Grace

Spare the Rod: The Heart of the Matter

Little Hearts Gentle Parenting Resources has a post explaining how we should interpret the 5 Rod verses in Proverbs in light of the New Testament: Spare The Rod: The Heart of the Matter.

Just A Sore Thumb was having similar thoughts when he wrote, Spared Rods.

How To Be A Good Wife

Aubry Grace  looks at the fallacy of trying to follow the advice in books like Created To Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl and An Excellent Wife by Martha Peace in her post, The Gospel Driven Marriage: How To Be A Good Wife.  Excellent advice which I think every married person should read.

And in the interest of fairness, here is a good post for the unmarried to read. <3

Jesus: Gentle Parent

Little Hearts Gentle Parenting Resources posts about Jesus, The Gentle Parent and how we can learn from Him and His example.

Disequilibrium

Carissa Robinson explains the concept of Disequilibrium and what it looks like for her 3 yr old who is Swiftly Approaching Disequilibrium.  This concept is from a series of books by Louise Bates Ames & Frances L. Ilg about what age appropriate behavior you can expect from children at each age.  Learning about this is very valuable as it allows her to make a game plan which she helpfully shares with us.

Gentle Parenting and Defiance

MamaPsalmist considers how hard it is to leave punitive spanking behind when a child is being defiant and if it is worth it in, Coming Out of Hiding.

Christians Who Don’t Spank and Why

I came across 2 Christian bloggers who very eloquently explain why they don’t spank.

Spanking…..The Post I Finally Had to Write and Spare the Rod: What Spanking Teaches Children by Amanda at Not Just Cute

To spank or not to spank? by Raqual at Connected Christian Mom

Behaviorism at the Root of Child Training

Carissa Robinson explains that “If you observe most recommended Christian parenting practices today, you might be surprised to discover a secular influence: behavioral psychology” in Awaken Their Hearts.

Meanwhile, Greenegem explains the error in thinking that we have to DO anything more than believe in order to be saved in No Assembly Required.

How Marriage Reflects Parenting

Heather, from My Life, posts an argument for using gentle parenting based on the pattern given for marriage in Ephesians. But I’m not doing this post justice, so here is a small excerpt:

If the Scriptures speak of a marriage relationship full of respect and love, why do we read and implement teachings of parenting that exclude respect, love, grace, understanding,….? Are those things only reserved for a husband and wife’s relationship and when it comes to parenting we can pull out all the stops and physically punish our child(ren) and treat them as a wild animal that needs training?

Reflecting the Character of God

The Hippie Housewife discusses how we should reflect the character of God for our children.  She looks at how attachment parenting looks a lot like how God cares for us and warns us about 3 heresies which are cropping up in many Christian teachings.

Along the same lines, Pearl In Oyster (PIO) explains that we should imitate how God disciplines His children.  She uses her testimony of how God treated her when she was out of His will as an example.

 

 

Book Review of “The Vision” by Debi Pearl

I have been aware for some time of Debi Pearl’s novel, The Vision, but I had not mentioned it as I had yet to find a  review of it which did not appear to be a press release.  That is until now.  Quiver Mamma has some issues with this book and shares them in Book Review: The Vision (The Last Publishers) by Debi Pearl.

The Messy Process of Growing

Carissa Robinson explains that we can’t expect grace filled parenting to be neat and easy in Growing Up Should Be Messy.

Motherhood as Ministry

Candace of His Mercy is New looks at The Ministry of Motherhood and His Grace in My Life in this lovely testimony.

More Thoughts About ATI

John Cornish has posted a follow up to his post about his childhood in an ATI world.

Responses to Our Critics

pFamilyGal considers the question of whether it is right for Christians to condemn the Pearls’ teachings in Called to Judge.

Pearl In Oyster (PIO) responds to her critics in More Thoughts on Biblical Parenting where she discusses Divine Punishment vs. Grace, Spanking for Danger Situations and the Rod Verses.


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