Rick Creech answers the question, Should Christian Parents Spank Their Children? This is a very good article to share with fundamental Christians because it is written by a fundamental pastor who only uses the KJV.
In case anyone was worried about how Carri Williams is faring in jail, the Skagit Valley Herald reports that she is being kept safe in one of the Work Release pods. This was an upgrade from the Solitary Confinement cell she was in before, as they are not healthy to use for long term use. It’s nice to know that they are doing their best to be as humane as possible while she is paying the price for accidentally torturing her daughter to death. Maybe she will start to understand the concept of grace, (unmerited favor.)
Meanwhile, Larry has been in custody for 2 years and the article does not mention what protective measures they have been using to keep him alive, but one must assume that they are in place.
Sentencing is scheduled for Tuesday, Oct 29.
Dulce de Leche looks at what the Bible really says about parenting. Note that this post is part of the 2012 Carnival of Gentle Discipline which you can find at the bottom of the post.
I would like to share 2 things with you about grace.
The other thing I found on Facebook: (scroll down for comments)
I think I would change “Repentant or Not” into “Saved or Not” but I still feel that this gives a good explanation of the difference between Religion and the Gospel. It is also a good explanation of the difference between the Law and Grace.
And as my friend, Rachel Sullivan-Nightengale, said,
Likewise God directs us to discipline our children–NOT threatening or punishing, which result at best in fear-induced outward compliance–but instead discipling them, gently teaching and helping them learn to do what’s right out of love for God.
We strive to imitate the way our Heavenly Father disciplines us, even as adults. He doesn’t punish us–Jesus took our punishment in full. He does guide us with loving patience at our slowness to learn, time after time.
Praise God for His abundant GRACE! May He help us mirror His grace toward our children.
Dulce de Leche continues her 10 Commandments for Parents series with Thou Shalt Not Kill. In this post she discusses how parents often kill pieces of their children’s individuality.
Also, take note of this post by Sara Mae which looks at The Nature of A Child and why we should respond to their tantrums with grace.
The Hippie Housewife reminds us that grace is for mothers too in These Days Don’t Define You.
Molly contemplates what Gentle Discipline means to her in Beyond The Ideas.
How should we treat our children when they disobey us? Cultured Mama explores this question as she asks Does God Withdraw His Love from Sinners?
Dulce de Leche continues her 10 Commandments For Parents series with The 10 Commandments for Parents: Taking His Name in Vain.
Pearl in Oyster (PIO) continues her 52 Tool Cards series with 52 Tool Cards Double Feature: Focus on Solutions and Problem Solving.
While we’re on the subject of gentle parenting, here is a Post from Momma on a Mission: Journey to Gentle Discipline.
Former Pearl follower Becky, from Created To Be His, shares a letter she wrote explaining her concerns with the Pearls and their teachings. In this letter she also explains what these teachings have to do with the death of Lydia Schatz and includes quotes from the book.
Carissa Robinson shares What Really Matters in a beautiful story of how she responded to a screaming fit with grace.
Cindy of Under Much Grace explains more about Bill Gothard and his erroneous definition of grace in Merging Justification and Sanctification: More About Gothard’s Thanksgiving Letter and Concerns About Grace
Aubry Grace looks at the fallacy of trying to follow the advice in books like Created To Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl and An Excellent Wife by Martha Peace in her post, The Gospel Driven Marriage: How To Be A Good Wife. Excellent advice which I think every married person should read.
And in the interest of fairness, here is a good post for the unmarried to read. <3
Little Hearts Gentle Parenting Resources posts about Jesus, The Gentle Parent and how we can learn from Him and His example.
Carissa Robinson explains the concept of Disequilibrium and what it looks like for her 3 yr old who is Swiftly Approaching Disequilibrium. This concept is from a series of books by Louise Bates Ames & Frances L. Ilg about what age appropriate behavior you can expect from children at each age. Learning about this is very valuable as it allows her to make a game plan which she helpfully shares with us.
MamaPsalmist considers how hard it is to leave punitive spanking behind when a child is being defiant and if it is worth it in, Coming Out of Hiding.
Heather, from My Life, posts an argument for using gentle parenting based on the pattern given for marriage in Ephesians. But I’m not doing this post justice, so here is a small excerpt:
If the Scriptures speak of a marriage relationship full of respect and love, why do we read and implement teachings of parenting that exclude respect, love, grace, understanding,….? Are those things only reserved for a husband and wife’s relationship and when it comes to parenting we can pull out all the stops and physically punish our child(ren) and treat them as a wild animal that needs training?
I have been aware for some time of Debi Pearl’s novel, The Vision, but I had not mentioned it as I had yet to find a review of it which did not appear to be a press release. That is until now. Quiver Mamma has some issues with this book and shares them in Book Review: The Vision (The Last Publishers) by Debi Pearl.
Carissa Robinson explains that we can’t expect grace filled parenting to be neat and easy in Growing Up Should Be Messy.
John Cornish has posted a follow up to his post about his childhood in an ATI world.
pFamilyGal considers the question of whether it is right for Christians to condemn the Pearls’ teachings in Called to Judge.
Pearl In Oyster (PIO) responds to her critics in More Thoughts on Biblical Parenting where she discusses Divine Punishment vs. Grace, Spanking for Danger Situations and the Rod Verses.