Last Resort?

Claire reconsiders her plan to use spanking as a Last Resort.

Punishment Works?

Claire, over at Dare To Disciple, continues with her Myth Busting series with Punishment Works.

More Thoughts About the Rod in Proverbs

Claire from Dare to Disciple has some thoughts about the Rod of Correction in Proverb 23:11.

 

Delayed or grudging obedience is disobedience?

Claire continues her Myth Busting series with Myth Busting 9: Right Away, All the Way, With a Happy Heart – or it’s Rebellion!

Part I: Delayed or grudging obedience is disobedience?

Part II: Is Disobedience to Parents Rebellion?

Gentle Parenting

I have had so much to share lately that my Gentle Parenting posts have been building up.  Here are some great posts to help you fill your Gentle Discipline Toolbox as well as encourage you in your Gentle Parenting.

Claire continues her Myth Busting at Dare To Disciple with Myth Busting 8: Breaking a lamb’s leg.

Dulce de Leche  explains about Opening Up the GD Toolbox: Stories.

Carissa Robinson shares about Parenting Through Changes.

Pearl in Oyster continues her series 52 Tool Cards Double Feature: Empower your Kids and Encouragement.

Cultured Mama explains How to Raise a Human, Radically.

Sally Clarkson shares Her philosophy of parenting: Pondering Christ.

Gentle Discipline

I have had so much to share lately that my Gentle Parenting links have been piling up.

Carissa Robinson describes Genuine Obedience.

Dulce De Leche explains about Gentle Parenting, that It’s a Lifestyle, Not an Event.

Claire continues her Myth Busting series with Myth Busting 6: “I could see it in her eyes”.

Greengem reminds us to keep Playful Parenting in our toolbox in My other car is a pterodactyl…

Pearl in Oyster (PIO) continues with her 52 Tool Cards series with  52 Tool Cards: Motivation and 52 Tool Cards: Follow Through.

Dealing With Big Feelings

MorningGloryGirl has a post at Dare To Disciple about Dealing With Children’s Big Feelings.

Discipleship and Autism

Greenegem shared about how she had to go to the hospital and how her son was diagnosed with autism back in July in Life: Where the Rubber Meets the Road. Now, almost 3 weeks later, she processes about her 2nd hospital stay and how it affected her 2 young sons in Adhesive: Life part 2.  In this post she also reflects more on her eldest son’s diagnosis of autism and how spanking would never have worked on him.  She shares some very important ideas here because much damage can be done by well meaning parents who believe that a child’s will must  be dominated.

Pondering Gentle Parenting

Greenegem from Dare to Disciple ponders hidden reasons for non-compliance in Kick a Man When He’s Down.

Meanwhile, Pearl in Oyster (PIO) looks at Comfort Corners in 52 Tool Cards: Positive Time-Out

More About What Gentle Parenting Is

Greenegem from Dare To Disciple explains what being a Gentle Christian Mamma looks like in It’s Really Quite Simple…

Meanwhile, on the same blog, Lucy explains that when it comes to parenting, One Size Does Not Fit All.

Putting Spouses Before Children

Dare to Disciple has a mini blog carnival on the topic of putting spouses’ needs before that of children in:
Myth Busting 5: Put the marriage first by Claire
and Husband vs. Children? by Barefoot Betsy

Appearances

BarefootBetsy writes about how worrying about what others think affects our parenting on Dare to Disciple.

Gentle Parenting of Teens

Lucy tells us how she gently parents her teenager at Dare to Disciple.

Along similar lines, Virginia Is For Mothers has written a post about using Calm Words with our children rather than yelling and/or scolding.  This is a good reminder for all of us.

Meanwhile, Under Much Grace continues with her series analyzing the Schatz Tragedy.  It occurs to me that this series should probably be read by the Schatzes defense attorneys.

Claire’s Testimony

Claire  has been doing some more Myth Busting at Dare to Disciple in Myth Busting 4: My Story.  Here are the myths she busts in this installment:

  • ‘Punish’ and ‘discipline’ are synonyms.  (note:  Sally Clarkson mentioned this in a recent post)
  • All Christians spank.
  • Spanking is the best way to make a point to a young child.
  • Spanking works.
  • God mandates – or at least strongly recommends – corporal punishment.
  • Children are lesser citizens than adults.
  • People have to feel bad to act better.

Dealing With Anger

Claire at Dare to Disciple has a post about Dealing With Anger, or in other words, controlling our temper.

Writing to Dad About Discipline

GreeneGem has written a 4 part piece her about father’s written attack on her decision not to spank, her written defense and the conversation which ensued.

  • Nothing to Write Home about…
  • Writing Home… part one
  • Writing Home… part two
  • Writing Home… part three
  • Myth Busting

    Claire has been doing some Myth Busting over at Dare to Disciple.   Today  I would like to feature  Myth Busting 3: Backtalk, Consistency and the United Front.

    For your convenience, here are her previous posts:

    Scriptural Tofurkey

    GreenGem at Dare to Disciple explains what Scriptural Tofurkey is in this very interesting and thought provoking analogy.

    Spanking and Proverbs – Part 3: Believer’s Behavior

    Barefoot Betsy looks at “what the rest of the Bibles says about spanking in the light of what the Bible – in particular, the New Testament – says about how we, as Christians, are to behave” in Spanking and Proverbs- Part 3: Believer’s Behavior.

    The Root Problem

    Dulce de Leche uncovers the root problem with the punitive mindset in her post, Authority, Submission, Control and Discipline.

    Yes, the root problem is control. Now that you have seen why we should not try to control our children, Lucy explains why she cannot control her children and what that looks like in her house.

    Lucy’s Story

    Lucy tells her story at Dare To Disciple. She shares how her views of spanking have changed during her lifetime and why she feels that spanking and Christianity are incompatible.

    Life as a Strong Willed Child

    MorningGloryGirl has posted about her life as a Strong Willed Child and how she grew up feeling that she was never good enough.

    Sharing Life With Your Children

    GreenGem has an interesting post about her Wonderful Life. In this post she explains why she allows her young sons to jump on the couch and run around the house. She also explains how she does housework with her sons, including cooking and cleaning. Children learn a lot from such activities. I wish I had had the patience to allow my young sons to help me with the housework more often when they were young.  This post also contains a very important message about control.  Just in case someone should read my words without reading hers, I want to share this Gem:

    Controlled kids become easily controlled adults, not self controlled adults.

    The Danger Dilemma

    Many parents reserve spankings for life or death situations.  Is there really any value in that?  Will spanking really protect children from danger?  GreeneGem answers that question in The Danger Dilemma.

    Spanking and Proverbs – Part 2: Interpretations

    Barefoot Betsy continues her look at Proverbs with, Spanking and Proverbs Part 2: Interpretations.  This is long but very well worth reading as she has done a very good job of helping us understand what the proverbs about the rod are really saying.

    Spanking and Proverbs – Part 1: Context

    BarefootBetsy is starting a series about what the Bible teaches about Spanking with Spanking and Proverbs – Part 1: Context

    She explains the purpose for her series, saying:

    Indeed, this very post is being written right now because of one of the comments I received! I encourage you to read the second comment and my response if you have not already. Debbie disagreed with my statement, “Nowhere in the Bible is anyone commanded to spank their children.” and I think it is very important to clarify why I believe my statement to be true regardless of how someone interprets the Proverbs “rod” verses. Whether you agree or disagree with me at the end, I hope this post helps you understand where at least one Christian who doesn’t spank (me!) is coming from.

    Also, don’t miss part 2 which will be featured in its own post soon.

    Grace Based Discipline and the Oppositional Child

    Recently I posted a link to what Gentle Discipline is not, today we will look at Gentle Discipline is. GreeneGem has written a very useful post about Grace Based Discipline and the Oppositional Child. You will certainly want to read this post because she gives very clear and detailed examples as well as explaining what Grace Based Discipline is and why she uses it.

    Regarding Punishments

    Barefoot Betsy shares a letter explaining why she does not believe in spanking in Regarding Punishments over at Dare To Disciple.

    Also, I have not yet mentioned Greenegem’s post about Shame, The Legacy Of Punishment on the same blog.

    Tools for the empty toolbox

    GreenGem has posted part 3 of her journey towards grace wherein she shares where she found the tools to replace spanking.

    Boundries

    Don’t miss GreenGem’s latest post where she explains boundaries. While you’re there, also check out her previous post, Nice to meet you…Einstein! where she explains how children learn to do things themselves.

    Really, you should subscribe to this blog’s RSS feed, because each post is a invaluable explanation of how spanking and punitive parenting damage our children and contribute to an adversarial relationship with them. Understanding how children think and reason is the first step to cultivating a positive relationship with them. We want to raise children who will eventually think for themselves. Anger and resentment will only lead to rebellion later in life. I cannot recommend this blog highly enough.


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