Dara Stoltzfus | Why Not Train A Child?

Teaching Children How To Appolgize

By Hermana Linda | January 8, 2015 |

JoEllen from CuppaCocoa explains how to teach children A Better Way To Say Sorry. This method is phenomenal as are the results of teaching it. As Dara Stoltzfus said on the Facebook page for this site. I’ve used this approach with my kids and it’s really the best way to go. Just forcing the “I’m sorry” thing…

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Consequences of not spanking

By Hermana Linda | October 4, 2014 |

Dara Stoltzfus tells us What Happens to Kids When You Don’t Spank. For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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“Life with Cerebral Palsy” with Stephanie Cox

By Hermana Linda | August 25, 2014 |

Dara Stoltzfus has started a new series about our very own Steph called, “Life with Cerebral Palsy” with Stephanie Cox. Here is what she has so far: Introduction The Chair! Back to School! The Holidays New Things! Love $hopping Ronan the horse For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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Questions for Pro-Spankers

By Hermana Linda | May 22, 2014 |

Here are 10 questions to ask those who believe that the Bible commands us to spank our children. For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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Why Heather Schopp Stopped Spanking

By Hermana Linda | February 21, 2014 |

Heather Schopp explains how she came to give up spanking in this testimony shared on Samuel Martin’s blog. This blog post is part of a Facebook discussion found here. Dara Stoltzfus has this and other testimonies here. For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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Samuel Martin Explains About Biblical Times

By Hermana Linda | October 7, 2013 |

Samuel Martin is trying to help people understand the difference in how people thought in Biblical times and now because this is crucial to understanding the Bible. He discusses Michael’s book, To Train Up A Child in Should we preach? publish?, or proclaim the Gospel – Yes? No? Maybe? He also has a post on Dara…

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Jesus, the Greatest Superhero

By Hermana Linda | September 19, 2013 |

Samuel Martin looks why Paul The Apostle did not use Proverbs and Parables in his teachings. Dara Stoltzfus considers becoming more like Jesus, the Greatest Superhero. For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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Debate with Pearl in The Christian Post

By Hermana Linda | September 16, 2013 |

Back in March of 2012, Jan Heimlich debated Michael Pearl in a video which was featured in The Christian Post. Although, I did mention the debate at the time as well as Samuel Martin’s Rebuttal to one of his statements, I never gave my own rebuttal. I would like to respond to some of Mr.…

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Getting Rid Of Weeds

By Hermana Linda | September 14, 2013 |

Dara Stoltzfus compares bad behavior in our children to Weeds in a Garden and comes up with some interesting allegories. This is a little off topic, but I just came across a news story about a family who noticed their very gentle dog acting aggressively towards the baby sitter. They left a device under the…

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It is Not Abuse If It Doesn’t Leave a Mark?

By Hermana Linda | July 17, 2013 |

Dara Stoltzfus considers the common assertion that Spanking Isn’t Abuse If It Doesn’t Leave A Mark. For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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What doesn’t kill you…

By Hermana Linda | June 26, 2013 |

Dara Stoltzfus questions the common saying, “What doesn’t kill me makes me….” For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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And When They Become Teenagers? Then What?

By Hermana Linda | June 7, 2013 |

Cindy Foster of The Baptist Taliban blog explains why she no longer believes in spanking in, I’m Coming Out! Along similar lines, Dara Stoltzfus has some interesting things to say about parenting teenagers in Spanking puts the parent in a bad autopilot mode… And speaking of Dara, she also takes a very good look at…

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Consequences and Examples

By Hermana Linda | May 14, 2013 |

Dara Stoltzfus discusses the influence we have on our children in What Do Your Kids See You Doing? While you’re at Dara’s blog, you will also want to read, her very thought provoking post, Kids need consequences to learn right from wrong, don’t they?! in which she considers two possible responses to a child stealing…

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Benefits of Gentle Parenting

By Hermana Linda | May 7, 2013 |

Jesse Hoover writes about how being gentle allowed him to correct without losing his son’s heart in When An Iron Fist Turns Soft. Dara Stoltzfus shares about how gentle parenting saved her life as she discusses blind obedience. For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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She Was Spanked And Is Not OK

By Hermana Linda | May 2, 2013 |

Dara Stoltzfus shares another story which explains how she was Spanked and Did Not Turn Out Okay. On a side-note, here is a pamphlet which discusses more ways in which spanked children may not turn out ok. For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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Anger and Repression

By Hermana Linda | April 27, 2013 |

Dara Stoltzfus considers anger and how children are forced to repress it. Many parents feel that it is best to teach their children to repress their anger. Those parents will typically not understand why repressing anger is unhealthy because they misunderstand the Bible. You can try to explain it to them, but they will rarely…

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Discipline = Punishment? Really?

By Hermana Linda | April 26, 2013 |

Dara Stoltzfus looks at the question, if discipline equals punishment, why does (Self) Discipline not equal (Self) Punishment ? For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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New Site: “20” Reasons Not To Spank

By Hermana Linda | April 18, 2013 |

When Dara Stoltzfus made a blog post entitled, “20 Reasons Not To Spank,” she found that it kept growing. It got so large that she ended up creating a new site entirely for that post. She is now up to 119 reasons… so far. Without further ado, I bring you, “20” Reasons Not To Spank,…

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Dara Explains Natural Consequences

By DaraSKS | March 25, 2013 |

Note from Hermana Linda: Pam continues to ask thought provoking questions about how one can raise children without spanking. In This comment, she asks, What do you mean by natural consequences? I think some of those are what I hoped for my children to avoid and why I view some punishment as a necessary part…

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If You were Spanked, Are You Really OK?

By Hermana Linda | March 20, 2013 |

Dara Stoltzfus asks those who were spanked if they are really okay. Her questions are sure food for thought. She also looks at how children develop trust that God hears us. The answer might surprise you. For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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How Will They Learn Without Spankings?

By Hermana Linda | March 1, 2013 |

Dara Stoltzfus considers the question, “How will kids learn if you don’t give them consequences?” as she again looks at training dogs. For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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Effects of Punitive Parenting

By Hermana Linda | February 26, 2013 |

Dara Stoltzfus reflects on how punitive parenting has affected her inner being in I was spanked and I’m NOT OK: Why and what I do. And just for fun, the Honest Toddler explains why it is futile to force your toddler to apologize. I know that this is meant to be funny, but there is…

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Bringing Out The Best In Our Children

By Hermana Linda | February 23, 2013 |

Sara Mae shares how spanking was affecting her 2 1/2 year old’s self esteem and why she and her husband decided to stop in How Gentleness Makes Our Children Great. Dara Stoltzfus also has noticed the importance of a child’s self-worth and explains how we can encourage their inner beauty in Princes and Princesses on…

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Reasons Not To Spank

By Hermana Linda | February 12, 2013 |

Dara Stoltzfus has been thinking about Euphemisms as she gives us 20 Reasons not to Spank. And for more food for thought from Dara, check out her thoughts on Abortion: A private matter? For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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When Gentle Discipline Fails

By Hermana Linda | February 4, 2013 |

Dulce de Leche looks at how Gentle Discipline Failed Her. Or did it? Along similar lines, MamaPsalmist considers the Gift of a Willful Child. And Dara Stoltzfus continues her look at how she was spanked and did NOT turn out OK. For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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Fear

By Hermana Linda | January 24, 2013 |

Dara Stoltzfus shares her testimony of growing up being spanked for every infraction in “I was spanked and I’m OK!” FEAR.. For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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Goal of Parenting

By Hermana Linda | January 21, 2013 |

We continue our look at the goal of parenting. Dara Stoltzfus examines Cooperation vs Compliance: Love vs Fear. The Hippie Housewife considers Asking the right questions. For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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Even More Fruits of Gentle Discipline

By Hermana Linda | January 17, 2013 |

Dara Stoltzfus has another story which demonstrates the fruits of not spanking. With this story she makes the point that we really need to decide if our goal in parenting is obedience or to raise a thoughtful, loving, healthy adult. For more stories like this, see my Fruits of Gentle Parenting Tag. Also, see my…

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More Fruits of Gentle Discipline

By Hermana Linda | January 14, 2013 |

Dara Stoltzfus shares more fruits of gentle parenting. This fruit says that You’re Not a Failure. Also, consider her post about Being punished for venting. For your sharing convenience:TwitterFacebookemailPrintTumblrDiggdel.icio.usStumbleUponAdd to favoritesReddit

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Fruits Of Not Spanking

By Hermana Linda | January 5, 2013 |

Dara Stoltzfus writes about the compassion of a child who was never spanked in Tori Story: More fruit of not spanking/hitting my kids . Along the same line she writes about the difference between those who have become inured to violence and the child who has never been hit and is therefore shocked by violence…

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