Posts Tagged ‘fear’
Letter to A Pro-Spanker
The Melting Mom has written a letter to her pro-spanking friend to explain what she has learned about gentle parenting. This is a fantastic letter and I know that you will find it helpful. I would also like to remind everyone that Gentle Christian Mothers is a very good place for mothers who are seeking…
Read MoreMore Reasons Not To Spank
Here are 2 new articles which explain why a Christian should reconsider spanking. 12 Biblical Reasons To Reconsider Spanking Your Kids By Shannon Wasie 6 Reasons Why We Changed Our Mind and Stopped Spanking by Sallie Borrink
Read MoreI Was Wrong to Tell You to Stop Spanking Your Kid: An Open Letter of Apology…
I was wrong. You heard it here first. That time. At the mall. You hit your kid and I told you it wouldn’t help anything and asked you to stop. That was really dumb. Not because I’ve changed my mind and decided we should hit kids, but because I know better. That approach I took…
Read MoreWhat doesn’t kill you…
Dara Stoltzfus questions the common saying, “What doesn’t kill me makes me….”
Read MoreIs Raising Children The Same As Raising Animals?
Many Christian pro-spankers such as James Dobson and Michael Pearl equate animal training with child rearing. Pearl claims that training children is much like training “stubborn mules.” Dobson uses an example of whipping his tiny dog into submission to taming a toddler. They believe that training children and animals…
Read MoreBenefits of Gentle Parenting
Jesse Hoover writes about how being gentle allowed him to correct without losing his son’s heart in When An Iron Fist Turns Soft. Dara Stoltzfus shares about how gentle parenting saved her life as she discusses blind obedience.
Read MoreDon’t Make Children Lie
Last night, my husband and I watched, “The Andy Griffith Show,” and it was the one where Opie was having fun pretending to have a black horse named Blackie. Andy, Opie’s dad, and Barney and Aunt Bea all had fun with this. Well, Opie goes off into the woods and meets a lineman named, Mr.…
Read MoreReasons Not To Spank
Dara Stoltzfus has been thinking about Euphemisms as she gives us 20 Reasons not to Spank. And for more food for thought from Dara, check out her thoughts on Abortion: A private matter?
Read MoreIs Defiance Real?
I have been thinking a lot about defiance lately. Is it real when it comes to young children? Most parents would emphatically answer, “Yes” to this question. I am not so sure though. According to dictionary.com, defiance is defined as “A daring or bold resistance to authority or to any opposing force.” To me, this…
Read MoreFear
Dara Stoltzfus shares her testimony of growing up being spanked for every infraction in “I was spanked and I’m OK!” FEAR..
Read MoreGoal of Parenting
We continue our look at the goal of parenting. Dara Stoltzfus examines Cooperation vs Compliance: Love vs Fear. The Hippie Housewife considers Asking the right questions.
Read MoreObedience and Fear
Do your children fear getting in trouble? Dara Stoltzfus shows us how dangerous it can be for children to fear their parents in a *very* sensitive post. Honestly, I wish I had never read this post. It is so disturbing that I will just summarize it for the sensitive. A 9 year old girl put…
Read MoreRaising Children to Not Accept Abuse
Dara Stoltzfus shows us how we can raise children to not see abusive behavior as normal in Wives With Knives. Dara Stolzfus has many other excellent posts. I have already linked to many of them. I must now link to this post about Consequences and how we react when we mess up. While I’m at…
Read MoreAfraid of a World Run By Adults Who Were Never Spanked?
Have you seen the Facebook meme about being afraid of a world run by adults who were never spanked? Well, Dara Stoltzfus Imagines such a world.
Read MoreMore Reasons Not to Spank
Joy explains Why She Doesn’t Spank Her Children Anymore.
Read MoreSarah’s Arguments Against Spanking
Sarah explains why she does not believe in spanking in a well researched and chatty post entitled, A person’s a person no matter how small. She also answers some common arguments for spanking with counter arguments, which many will find helpful.
Read MoreIs Your Parenting Based on Fear or Faith?
Carissa Robinson compares Fear-Based and Faith-Based Parenting. Which one one do you think glorifies God? Which one do you use? For more help, check out this post by Pearl in Oyster (PIO) about how we can use our God-given hormones to help us parent better in Oxytocin and “Time In.”
Read MoreDoes God Spank His Children?
Carissa Robinson delves into the question, “Does God Spank His Children?“
Read MoreOvercoming the Issues of The Older Adoptive Child
Veteran Adoptive Parent, Christine Minich explains the Issues with Older Adoptive Children and how to overcome them. What she recommends is almost the polar opposite of the Recipe For Disaster in my last post.
Read MoreUnderstanding Our Little Ones
MamaPsalmist discusses a post from Positive Parenting which explains why Nonpunitive Discipline ≠ Lazy Parenting in Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond: Nonpunitive Discipline ≠ Lazy Parenting. On a similar note, Elizabeth (from Virginia Is For Mothers) shares some very helpful insight about giving grace and understanding to Child Size Problems. And Pearl In Oyster (PIO)…
Read MoreChristians Who Don’t Spank and Why
I came across 2 Christian bloggers who very eloquently explain why they don’t spank. Spanking…..The Post I Finally Had to Write and Spare the Rod: What Spanking Teaches Children by Amanda at Not Just Cute To spank or not to spank? by Raqual at Connected Christian Mom
Read MoreMore Unexpected Effects of Spanking
The Scientific Universalist reacts to CNN’s Ungodly Discipline series and shares her testimony of how “Biblical chastisement” affected her view of God. Meanwhile, Lisa, of Broken Daughters, shares how “Biblical chastisement” led to her self-destructive behavior in a heart breaking and difficult to read post.
Read MoreThere is No Fear in Love: Why Spanking Doesn’t Work
When I was ten until I was twelve years old, I attended a small non-denominational Christian school in which spanking was permitted. Although such practice is almost unheard of now, even among private schools, it was fairly common a few decades ago. Of course, like most Christians who spank, the rationale for using a paddle…
Read MoreAnother Anonymous Spanking Story
Dulce de Leche has posted Another Anonymous Post on Spanking in which the anonymous poster shares about how the spankings her younger brother received affected her.
Read MoreWhat Do Children Think About Being Spanked?
What message do children really take away from corporeal punishment? Carissa Robinson has asked some mothers what they remembered about being spanked and posts their thoughts and stories in What Do They Really Think?
Read MoreSpiritual Roots
Dulce de Leche looks at the Spiritual Roots of discipline.
Read MoreToo Scared To Sleep
Pearl in Oyster (PIO) shares how her young daughter was Scared Sleepless and why considering the reasons can help us to be patient when our children can’t sleep.
Read MoreFear, Boundaries and Pleasers
Dulce de Leche explains her stance on Fear, Boundaries and Pleasers in this insightful post.
Read MoreChildhood in the ATI World
John Cornish shares about of his Childhood in the ATI/IFB World and how it affected his life. This is not really about abuse per se, more of how a mindset damaged him. This mindset is known to lead to abuse and this testimony shows how damaging the mindset is. More importantly, he explains how scriptural…
Read MoreMemories of a Child Raised by the Pearl Method
No Longer Quivering has started a new story by Libby Anne about her childhood in which she was raised by the Pearl Method. In part 1 she tells about how her mother almost killed her little sister by strict adherence to the Pearl Method.
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