Advice Line: Can You Help These Readers?
I have had 2 solicitations for advice so I’m opening up the advice line. Can anyone help these readers? Marissa Stone asks: Can you give me some advice on teaching honesty to kids? Right now it it feels like I am trying to push a car uphill. Not totally impossible but hard. How can you…
Read MoreConsequences and Examples
Dara Stoltzfus discusses the influence we have on our children in What Do Your Kids See You Doing? While you’re at Dara’s blog, you will also want to read, her very thought provoking post, Kids need consequences to learn right from wrong, don’t they?! in which she considers two possible responses to a child stealing…
Read MoreProsecutors Still Trying To Verify Hana’s Age
According to an article in the Skagit Valley Herald, prosecutors in the Williams court case are seeking Hana Alemu’s uncle to testify to verify her age. Her body was exhumed for that purpose, but the examination proved to be inconclusive. The reason they need her age is that the charge they are trying to prove…
Read MoreBenefits of Gentle Parenting
Jesse Hoover writes about how being gentle allowed him to correct without losing his son’s heart in When An Iron Fist Turns Soft. Dara Stoltzfus shares about how gentle parenting saved her life as she discusses blind obedience.
Read MoreGentle Parenting Older Children
Jeri, of Gentle Christian Mothers, shares about how Gentle Parenting is working now that her children are older.
Read MoreMore Looks at Michael Pearl’s Teachings
Michael Pearl’s teachings are being discussed in the blogosphere again. Rick Morton responds to Jonathan Merritt’s Analysis of Michael & Debi Pearl’s “Child Training” & The “Adoption Fever” Dialogue in this post. Morgan Guyton discusses Why He Would Fail Michael And Debi Pearl’s Parenting Class.
Read MoreShe Was Spanked And Is Not OK
Dara Stoltzfus shares another story which explains how she was Spanked and Did Not Turn Out Okay. On a side-note, here is a pamphlet which discusses more ways in which spanked children may not turn out ok.
Read MoreAttachment Only By Day? – Part 2
Note from Hermana Linda: This is the continuation of a conversation in the comments of Steph’s article on Attachment Theory. Read Part 1 here. This exchange starts here. Hi Steph, thank you for your kind reply. I totally see your point. I didn’t mention the details on how my child responds when separated. She ofcourse…
Read MoreDon’t Make Children Lie
Last night, my husband and I watched, “The Andy Griffith Show,” and it was the one where Opie was having fun pretending to have a black horse named Blackie. Andy, Opie’s dad, and Barney and Aunt Bea all had fun with this. Well, Opie goes off into the woods and meets a lineman named, Mr.…
Read MoreAttachment Only By Day? – Part 1
Note from Hermana Linda: We appreciate getting comments and read every one. This comment from Jo about Attachment Theory elicited such an insightful response from Steph that I have decided to highlight it here. From my personal experience with my own child, if you provide consistent care and love in meeting the needs of…
Read MoreAnger and Repression
Dara Stoltzfus considers anger and how children are forced to repress it. Many parents feel that it is best to teach their children to repress their anger. Those parents will typically not understand why repressing anger is unhealthy because they misunderstand the Bible. You can try to explain it to them, but they will rarely…
Read MoreDiscipline = Punishment? Really?
Dara Stoltzfus looks at the question, if discipline equals punishment, why does (Self) Discipline not equal (Self) Punishment ?
Read MoreWhy Liz BR Does Not Spank
Liz Boltz Ranfeld explains why she and her husband Don’t Spank Their Kid in a well thought out post. She has 5 main reasons which are fleshed out and explained. 1) Her child’s personality 2) Research 3) Occasional spanking so often turns into frequent spanking. 4) She’s not allowed to hit another adult; why should…
Read MoreWifely Submission
Dulce de Leche has a series on Wifely Submission Part 1 Intro Part 2 Before The Fall Part 3 The Fall Part 4 What God Has Joined Together Part 5 Wives, Submit Yourselves to Your Husbands Part 6 Spiritual Leadership Part 7 Who Makes the Final Decision? Also Eric Pazdziora explores The Myth of the…
Read MoreThe Pearls in the Religion News
Jonathan Merritt has published an article about Michael and Debi Pearl on ReligionNews.com entitled, How Influential Are Michael and Debi Pearl? And How Harmful? He only found out about them recently but has apparently done his homework very well.
Read MoreThe Golden Rule
Sally Clarkson explains how meeting your baby’s needs is following The Golden Rule in Pick Up Your Baby! Do Unto Then What You Would Have Done To You!
Read MoreMore Court Cases Involving Abused Adopted Children
I have been watching 2 very sad cases in the news since October 2012. I have not mentioned them before now because neither of them seem to be following any particular extreme teaching. They are both about Christian adoptive parents who apparently tried to control their adoptive children using adversarial parenting and corporal punishment and…
Read MoreNew Site: “20” Reasons Not To Spank
When Dara Stoltzfus made a blog post entitled, “20 Reasons Not To Spank,” she found that it kept growing. It got so large that she ended up creating a new site entirely for that post. She is now up to 119 reasons… so far. Without further ado, I bring you, “20” Reasons Not To Spank,…
Read MoreDara Explains Natural Consequences
Note from Hermana Linda: Pam continues to ask thought provoking questions about how one can raise children without spanking. In This comment, she asks, What do you mean by natural consequences? I think some of those are what I hoped for my children to avoid and why I view some punishment as a necessary part…
Read MoreSylvia’s Thoughts On Spanking
Sylvia shares her testimony and Her Thoughts On Spanking in this post.
Read MoreWhy Rosemary Has Chosen Not To Spank
Rosemary shares “a collection of thoughts on why – especially the Biblical reasons why –” They’ve Chosen Not To Spank.
Read MoreIf You were Spanked, Are You Really OK?
Dara Stoltzfus asks those who were spanked if they are really okay. Her questions are sure food for thought. She also looks at how children develop trust that God hears us. The answer might surprise you.
Read MoreDiscipline VS Neglect
Note from Hermana Linda: We appreciate getting comments and read every one. This comment from Pam is so long that Steph decided to respond in a post, so here it is. Hi Steph, Though I don’t consider myself to be “pro” spanking, I am pro-discipline, and I do believe that infrequent spanking can be part…
Read MoreBabies, Children and Sin Nature
Stephanie just started a new blog called The Shepherd’s Apprentice. In her first post, she explains about the sin nature of babies and children and how we should respond to it. She then posts about Selfish Babies or rather, if there is such a thing. She ties it up with a look at Sin, How…
Read MoreSeeking Peace
Samuel Martin asks us all to join him in praying for “the peace of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ on all under His sun suffering from family violence.” Speaking of peace, Carissa Robinson encourages us to run to The Father with our problems for He will give us peace in Paideia, Part 3.
Read MoreVoddie Baucham and The Sin of Shyness
Did Voddie Baucham really say that a shy child who refuses to obey a parent and say hello to him is sinning? Cindy of Under Much Grace provides the evidence (in the form of a transcribed audio clip) so that you can decide for yourself.
Read MoreHow Will They Learn Without Spankings?
Dara Stoltzfus considers the question, “How will kids learn if you don’t give them consequences?” as she again looks at training dogs.
Read MoreMothering By Grace Reviews Shepherding A Child’s Heart
I just found this excellent review of Tedd Tripp’s Book, Shepherding A Child’s Heart at Mothering By Grace.
Read MoreEffects of Punitive Parenting
Dara Stoltzfus reflects on how punitive parenting has affected her inner being in I was spanked and I’m NOT OK: Why and what I do. And just for fun, the Honest Toddler explains why it is futile to force your toddler to apologize. I know that this is meant to be funny, but there is…
Read MoreBringing Out The Best In Our Children
Sara Mae shares how spanking was affecting her 2 1/2 year old’s self esteem and why she and her husband decided to stop in How Gentleness Makes Our Children Great. Dara Stoltzfus also has noticed the importance of a child’s self-worth and explains how we can encourage their inner beauty in Princes and Princesses on…
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