Voddie Baucham and The Sin of Shyness

Did Voddie Baucham really say that a shy child who refuses to obey a parent and say hello to him is sinning? Cindy of Under Much Grace provides the evidence (in the form of a transcribed audio clip) so that you can decide for yourself.


  1. Sophia on March 20, 2013 at 3:35 pm

    I completely agree with Voddie on this one. Spare the “abuse” comments please. If I tell my home to do something and they think that acting “shy” is a way to get out of obeying, I will start seeing it pop up in other areas as an excuse to not obey. The bible is clear about discipline and excusing your child from discipline is not loving, it’s the exact opposite. If spank=abuse then you should all turn your parents in for child abuse because I’m positive that at least 75% of you were spanked as a child in one form or another.

    • Hermana Linda on March 20, 2013 at 3:46 pm

      I see that you do not believe in shyness. That would likely be because you did not experience it. I hope your disbelief is limited to shyness and that you do not inflict pain on your children for not obeying you when they are unable to. Do you also punish your children for making mistakes and/or forgetting things? Your comment about turning in our parents for the mistakes they made demonstrates lack of grace in your thinking. I feel very sad for people who do not understand grace and even sadder for those who live with them.

      • Jill on October 28, 2014 at 8:30 pm

        Are making mistakes or forgetting things on the same Biblical level as being disobedient to your parents? I’ve been searching my Bible for verses that would support them BEING the same thing, but alas am unable to locate them. If you’re able to point me in the right direction, in the Bible, I’d greatly appreciate it. Otherwise, these three examples (mistakes, forgetting things, and disobedience) do not relate to each other in a Biblical way and cannot be used effectively to make your point.

        • Hermana Linda on October 29, 2014 at 10:37 am

          I’m sorry for not being clear. We were discussing the concept that failing to obey for reasons of shyness was a punishable offense. My point was that shyness is childish behavior. I then asked if she also punishes for failure to obey caused by other childish behavior, such as making mistakes or forgetting things.

    • Jill on October 28, 2014 at 8:31 pm

      Completely agree Sophia. Thank you. 🙂

  2. Steph on March 5, 2013 at 7:31 pm

    Really??? This makes me sick! He obviously does not understand child development nor God’s grace and forgiveness. And spanking a child for everything? Sounds like a good way to murder them. He isn’t God. He cannot see into people’s hearts, so who is he to judge? And what about the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22)? Gentleness is one of the fruits! Spanking/hitting a child is anything but gentle!

  3. Christie on March 4, 2013 at 12:33 pm

    Wow….. WHY ARE PEOPLE STILL falling for this garbage???
    He has a nice sounding voice…. but the “It’s ok for your child’s world to revolve around them for the first few WEEKS, after that, their world revolves around ME!” REALLY?

    “Wear them out all day long?” Spank often?

    What a nightmare.

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