The Myth of Good Christian Parenting
This new book looks very interesting: The Myth of Good Christian Parenting: How False Promises Betrayed a Generation of Evangelical Families (Breaking the Cycle of Religious Trauma and Corporal Punishment) By Marissa Franks Burt and Kelsey Kramer McGinnis
Read MoreMichael & Debi Pearl: Helpful or Harmful? – Pastor Peter Vik
I found this video very well worth the time. They explain their concerns with the teachings of the Pearls and of Bill Gothard very well. Pastor Vik states that he is not against all corporeal punishment, which makes this good to share with pro-spanking Christians who will not consider any arguments from non-spankers.
Read MoreDo you understand what you are reading in the Bible?
Samuel Martin has a new video which is worth watching and sharing:
Read MoreParents Who Spank Face ‘Epidemic’ of Estrangement -Dr. Joshua Coleman’s latest book offers caution, comfort to cut-off parents
By M. Dolon Hickmon According to a 2021 book by psychologist and formerly estranged parent Dr. Joshua Coleman, mental health professionals are facing a new crisis: generations of older parents cut-off by their adult children over allegations of child abuse. Importantly, Dr. Coleman says that what constitutes adequate reason to end contact has changed: “It…
Read MoreNew book in the Series from Samuel Martin dealing with Hebrews 12 and Spanking Children
I am very pleased to share this information regarding Samuel Martin’s 2nd book. Thy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me: BOOK II The Book of Hebrews and the Corporal Punishment of Children in the Christian Context A New Book by Samuel Martin This book has been 14 years in the making. Samuel Martin returns…
Read MoreChanges at NGJ
I came across this blog post by Suzanne Titkemeyer at Pathos which has some recent updates at NGJ of which I was not aware. Apparently, someone else is running it now and they are softening their image. This is important because the more they hide their abuse, the more insidious they become.
Read MoreThy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me: Christians and the Spanking Controversy Now Available on Amazon.com
Thy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me: Christians and the Spanking Controversy by Samuel Martin was out of print but now it is again available in hard copy. You can find this wonderful book on Amazon.com or download it for free here. If you have already read the book, please head over to Amazon.com…
Read MoreVideo About Growing Up Under Gothard’s and Pearl’s Teachings
Kristiana Minor is interviewed by Chris Shelton in the long but very worthwhile video, Growing Up Quiverfull – The Duggar’s Destructive Cult. Because this video is over an hour long, I will provide an outline with times so you can skip to the parts you wish to watch. You can also read Kristiana’s story by…
Read MoreZsuzsanna Anderson’s Negative Review of TTUAC
When I find Pro-Spankers speaking out against the Pearl’s teachings, I like to highlight them because I am very aware that those who are convinced that the Bible teaches that they must spank will not listen to the arguments of those who do not. If you know someone who is looking into the Pearls’ teachings…
Read MoreWhite House Bible Study
Libby Anne reports that the White House Bible Study leader is teaching something very close to Pearl’s teachings. This is affecting the way they run the country, specifically the decision to separate children from their parents. I sincerely hope that this is not true, but I wanted to share it with everyone because it seems…
Read MoreRemembering Lydia as the Pearls are in the news once again
Tulip Girl has an important post which I must share with you on this 8th anniversary of Lydia’s death. I have shared these posts on my Facebook page, it’s time to put them here, as well: Joy-Anna Duggar’s Husband Associated With Child Abuse Scandal from CafeMom Family Of Joy-Anna Duggar’s Husband Hosting Couple Accused Of…
Read MoreBook Review – “Parenting In Christ” by Christina Dronen
Parenting in Christ: Treasures for Parenting from Jesus is a new book, written by Christina Dronen. It is a lovely little study book, containing 10 short lessons, perfect for personal study or a small group setting. This is a very gentle book and respectful of children. I was quite impressed with these lessons and recommend…
Read MoreA New Rod Study Starting
Jeanne, from Family That Matters, is starting a new Rod Study based on Samuel Martin’s book, Thy Rod And Thy Staff They Comfort Me. I’ll be linking to each chapter here. Why using the rod on your child and spanking is not found in the Bible: An old truth in a new light. (Part 1)…
Read MoreScience and Spanking
So, there have been some new studies lately regarding spanking. While I realize that many Christians don’t give a fig what the scientists say, many do and I thought it might be helpful to link to some articles about these studies. Here is an article from Scientific American. Here is an article from IFL Science. I…
Read MoreSocial Expectations and Abuse
This article by Claire Roise looks at how society’s views of cigarettes and seat belts have changed over the years and how it would look if abuse followed suit. It is a very interesting article and I recommend it highly. I remember the changes she discusses quite well. (I was an oddball child who insisted on wearing…
Read MoreDr. Seuss and the Issue of Consent
At the risk of ruining a favorite children’s book for you, I would like to share this perspective of Green Eggs and Ham. (Disclaimer: This does not appear to be a Christian blog and there is one mildly strong word which could offend.) However, this message is something I think is important to consider. What you…
Read MoreA Christian Look at Domestic Violence
So many Christians do not understand domestic abuse. They often teach that a Christian wife should just submit and pray harder. This booklet looks at what the Bible teaches about abusive behavior using the story of David and Saul as an example. Obviously, the relationship between Saul and David was not the same as the relationship between…
Read MoreUpdate on Steph’s Book
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Read MoreThe best sale for the book, “Gentle Firmness” through Monday, Dec 12.
Stephanie Cox is selling signed copies for her book “Gentle Firmness” at the lowest price ever, only $20 with FREE shipping! You still have 2 days to take advantage of this wonderful opportunity to buy this book for yourself and as Christmas presents. In order to take advantage of this sale you need to contact Stephanie directly. You can message her…
Read MorePearl’s Reaction To the Duggar Debacle
Pearl’s reaction to the problems the Duggars have faced fits his M.O. perfectly. He continues to give the same advice that the Duggars were already following and insists that it works, in spite of it not working for them. I don’t doubt that in his mind, the fact that it didn’t work is proof that they did…
Read MoreDoes Candace Cameron Bure promote the Pearls?
Inquisitr.com reports that Candace Cameron Bure promotes some very harsh teachings including that of the Pearls’. They even link to an old blog post entitled,“Ask Candace” for proof. Do you have any parenting tips? Who doesn’t? We all learn things along the way, that we end up sharing with people whether they like it or…
Read MoreShannon’s Testimony and Plea to End Obedience-Based Christian Parenting
Shannon Evans pleas for an end to Obedience-Based Christian Parenting, especially for adopted children, in a very well written post. This is a good post to share with pro-spankers because she explains the danger of the mindset without condemning spankers. I realize that many of my followers are disappointed in this post and claiming that…
Read MoreRemembering Sean
Tulipgirl reminds us that it has been ten years since we lost Sean.
Read MoreIs it good parenting to let a baby cry?
It is always so sad to see letting a little baby cry be associated with doing what’s best for the child. Science proves otherwise and so does the Bible. I do not see anywhere in the Bible where it teaches that it is good to let a baby cry. On the contrary, God associates Himself…
Read MoreRemembering Lydia
This morning when I saw the date, I knew it was an anniversary, but I could not remember of what until Eric Pazdiziora reminded me. It’s been 6 years since we lost Lydia. 😥 Eric Pazdiziora wrote a musical piece in memory of Lydia. Here is TulipGirl’s memorial tribute to Lydia.
Read MoreColleen’s Testimony
Coleen G. was nice enough to share her testimony here on my blog. I’m reposting it below so it won’t be missed. I have seen the fruits of the Pearl’s methods in my own children and at another family that we know. My friend tried to switch her toddler son until he was crying submissively and…
Read MoreTestimony of Gentle Parenting
Gentle Christian Mothers has posted a testimony on her Facebook page. She includes a lovely photo of her 4 children, I do hope you will take a look. It is a public post so I do not believe that you need to have a Facebook account in order to view it.
Read MoreLisa’s Response to Debi Pearl’s Prayer for the destruction of her enemies
Lisa has said very well what I have had neither the time nor energy to write so I am going to give her comments the exposure they deserve. In response to my post regarding Debi Pearl’s public prayer asking God to destroy her enemies, Lisa said: I read the article, also, and I was appalled.…
Read MoreAre the Pearls praying for the death of their enemies?
It would appear that the Pearls are facing legal problems over the damages their teachings have caused. Vyckie Garrison reports on this in an article entitled, “Evangelical couple begs God to strike critics dead over child abuse claims.” When I saw this article, was surprised. I feel that I know quite a bit about the Pearls and I…
Read MoreUnderstanding Toddler Meltdowns
What is the right response to a toddler’s meltdown? Would understanding them help? You bet it would! For that reason, I am sharing this very helpful and insightful post from Stephanie Cox, The Brain Overload During Meltdowns Is Real! Edited to add, here is the follow up to this post.
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