Not Allowed To Foster Because of Spanking
Gregory and Melanie Magazu have been told that they may not have foster children because they spank their own children. I think that it is a good thing. Foster children have enough trauma, without being aware of children in the home being hit. This applears to be a test case, so I will be watching it. For…
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RedditLetter to A Pro-Spanker
The Melting Mom has written a letter to her pro-spanking friend to explain what she has learned about gentle parenting. This is a fantastic letter and I know that you will find it helpful. I would also like to remind everyone that Gentle Christian Mothers is a very good place for mothers who are seeking…
Read MoreThere’s More To This Than Meets The Eye
Perhaps you have heard of Rachel Dolezal, she has been in the media a lot lately. She recently resigned from her posistion as NAACP leader after her parents informed the media that she was white. I had a feeling that there was something behind this all that we didn’t know, so I was not very surprised to find…
Read MoreMore Reactions to the Duggar Situation
There is SO much being written about the Duggars. In an effort to please everyone, I decided to stop posting everything I saw on this blog’s Facebook Page and start posting it on my Facebook Account’s wall. This way, those who want to see everything I share in real time can friend me and those who rather just…
Read MoreA Voice For The Victims
Victimhood is a very personal thing. Many survivors of abuse are finding their voices and are making a valient effort to speak for these victims. Some are saying that it increases the pain of the victims and that we should stop. Others are saying that we must speak out in order to give a voice to the…
Read MoreHope For Healing Duggars
I have been feeling very sad about the Duggar situation, so I am comforted to read this encouraging post by Trudy Metzger. Yes, the situation is grim, but there is still hope for healing. Yes, it’s true that she probably doesn’t really understand the patriarchy mindset involved in this story, but she does know about…
Read MoreReactions to the Duggar Scandal
My last post was about the tragic news story of Josh Duggar and his abuse of young girls. How should the Church react to something like this? Here are some thoughts on that as well as reactions and analysis. Barefoot Betsy shares her reactions and opinions. A short quote to whet your appetite: I believe…
Read MoreThe Duggars – The Facade Crummbles
It is with great sadness of heart that I discover that my concerns about the Duggar family were well founded. In fact, it’s worse than I ever even imagined. I always knew that they spanked their children, even though many gentle parents insisted that they did not. I knew that they were involved with ATI…
Read More3rd Anniversary of Hana’s Passing
Maureen remembers Hana Alemu “Williams” and gives us a small update in Remembering Hana: May 12, 2011. I should also mention that Feb 6 was the 5th anniversary of the passing of Lydia Schatz and Feb 26 was the 9th anniversary of the passing of Sean Paddock. May they rest in peace. For your sharing…
Read MoreRebecca’s Review of 13:24
Rebecca has written a very helpful review of the crime thriller 13:24 by M. Dolon Hickmon. This review explains how triggering this novel is for victims of abuse and why it is not appropriate for everyone. I, for one, appreciate the warning. Please see the conversation which ensued between M Dolon Hickmon, myself and Rebecca Diamond on…
Read More“To Train Up A Child” in New Zealand News
Eileen Joy and her petition have made the mainstream news in New Zealand after reaching 100,000 signatures. Here is an article in the New Zealand Herald. Here is an article from Auckland Now. (Sunday Star Times) Here is an article from 3 News There is also debate about this on Facebook. I found a some on this pages:…
Read MorePetition to Auckland Libraries
Eileen Joy has started a petition at Change.org asking the Auckland Public Library system to remove the newly aquired book, To Train Up A Child from their system. The library claims that to remove it would be censorship, even though the book advocates for corporal punishment which is illegal in New Zealand. For your sharing convenience:FacebookemailTumblrAdd…
Read MoreLet God be True, but Every Man a Liar
“Do not hold back discipline from the child, Although you strike him with the rod, he will not die. You shall strike him with the rod And rescue his soul from Sheol” (Proverbs 23:13-14, NASB). So many Christians believe this verse and the other “Rod” verses are to be taken literally. Some very watered down…
Read MoreRefuting Pearl’s Analysis of Spanking Studies
In a recent post, I shared discussion of an addition to To Train Up A Child by Michael Pearl. There is an exerpt from the chapter on the No Greater Joy website. In this article, Michael Pearl refutes studies which have shown spanking children to be harmful and shares the results of some other studies…
Read MoreUpdate in the Barbour Case
The Pittsburgh Post Gazette has an update on the Barbour Case which focuses on the children involved and their new life and healing. It’s so wonderful to post some good news for a change! In case you missed them, here are my previous posts about the Barbour case. For your sharing convenience:FacebookemailTumblrAdd to favoritesReddit
Read MoreDiscussing the new chapter of TTUAC
The Gentle Christian Mothers are discussing NGJ’s New Addition to “To Train Up a Child.” It seems that for their 21st anniversary edition, No Greater Joy has added a new chapter to the book which attempts to refute studies which showing spanking to be detrimental to children. Of course, the moms at Gentle Christian Mothers have found…
Read MoreA person’s a person no matter how small.
Sarah has graciously allowed me to host this most excellent post. ********************************************************************* Aha. Welcome to my long winded “Why I don’t believe in spanking” post. You will soon find that spanking isn’t the whole issue with me. I don’t believe in punishment at all (GASP!). ‘Course permissiveness can be unhealthy as well, so I am setting…
Read MoreLife Sentence for Killing Child While Trying To Break his Will
Markiece Palmer has been sentenced to life in prison without the possibility of parole for the beating death of Roderick “RJ” Arrington. This was another case of parents abusing their child in the name of religion. The part I found intersting about this case was that the judge condemned him for his attempt to break…
Read MoreParenting in the Name of God E-Book
C.L. Dyck has graciously allowed me to host her free e-book. Her summary text is as follows: Is the child-training method of homeschool business No Greater Joy Ministries a factor in child deaths? Sean Paddock (2006) and Lydia Schatz (2010) both died at the hands of parents who allegedly followed Michael Pearl’s child training method.…
Read MoreHe Makes Pearl’s Teachings Seem Gentle
R.L. Stollar has an in depth analysis of Voddie Baucham’s teachings in The Child As Viper: How Voddie Baucham’s Theology of Children Promotes Abuse. In it, Voddie Baucham’s teachings are compared to Michael Pearl’s teachings with this conclusion: Baucham’s system thus ends up being more authoritarian than Pearl’s, and that is caused by the fact that Baucham not…
Read MoreDonia’s Testimony
Another testimony from someone who was “lovingly” spanked/hit by her well meaning Christian parents, and yet, was harmed. Pro-spankers, please do not dismiss these real stories. After all, if spanking is so “godly,” why do you call people harmed by spankings “spoiled brats? Here is Donia’s story: “This was how I was raised. Spanked ‘biblically’…
Read MoreTeaching Children How To Appolgize
JoEllen from CuppaCocoa explains how to teach children A Better Way To Say Sorry. This method is phenomenal as are the results of teaching it. As Dara Stoltzfus said on the Facebook page for this site. I’ve used this approach with my kids and it’s really the best way to go. Just forcing the “I’m sorry” thing…
Read MoreFollowing God’s Word or Man’s?
Richard was kind enough to share his concerns with me here. Dara responded to him with such a powerful testimony that I did not want to leave her words hidden in my comment section. That is why I am reproducing her comment here. ****************************************************************************************** “How interesting, Hermana Linda, that you have determined that there are better ways to guide…
Read MoreHSLDA Speaks Out Against Patriarchy
Michael Ferris, on behalf of HSLDA, speaks out against Bill Gothard, Doug Phillips and the teachings of Patriarchy in A Line In The Sand. It’s a shame they still recommend abusive books, such as those by Dr. James Dobson and John Rosemond. For your sharing convenience:FacebookemailTumblrAdd to favoritesReddit
Read MoreSinful Children?
I was recently asked why gentle Christian parents and advocates don’t talk about sin when it comes to children much. The answer is because what most Christians believe is sin in children usually isn’t. A toddler saying, “no!” when asked to do something isn’t sin, it’s the child exploring independence and boundaries. A preschooler crying…
Read MoreThe Risk of Unintended Sexual Abuse Through Spanking
Homeschoolers Anonymous is running a series called, “Hurts Me More Than You,” from which I came across this testimony about the very real and tragic risk of unintended sexual abuse through spanking. If there were no other arguments against spanking, this one would be enough. Some time ago a pastor and some of his flock…
Read MoreSteph Got your help! Thank you!
UPDATE: Because of cash donations not included in the total, the goal has been met! Thank you to everyone who participated in this labor of love. <3 Steph is the author of Gentle Firmness. She needs a new wheelchair, this link explains why. Please share the link, every little bit helps. Thank you so much! For your…
Read MoreThe Duggars Are Getting A Lot Of Attention Lately
Should Christian Parents Spank Their Children?
Rick Creech answers the question, Should Christian Parents Spank Their Children? This is a very good article to share with fundamental Christians because it is written by a fundamental pastor who only uses the KJV. For your sharing convenience:FacebookemailTumblrAdd to favoritesReddit
Read MoreMaj. John and Carolyn Jackson on trial for abuse
I just found out about a new abuse trial, that of Army Maj. John E. Jackson and his wife, Carolyn. The North Jersey Record writes about the case here. It involves 3 adopted children, one of whom died some time ago (which they are now investigating due to the findings of abuse of the other 2.)…
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