Posts Tagged ‘testimony’
Making Sure They Learn Their Lesson
I really believe that most parents get no pleasure out of spanking their children and do so only so that they will “learn their lesson.” But what does spanking children really teach them? I have seen many testimonies of adults who were spanked as children who did not learn what their parents meant to teach…
Read MoreDo Children Distinguish Between Spanking and Hitting?
Molly reflects on how children view spanking, drawing on her own memories of Fighting Spanking.
Read MoreA Warning About Extreme Submission
Mrs. Jacks shares her testimony of How Submission Books Nearly Ruined her Marriage.
Read MoreLeaving The Patriarchy Movement
Becky at Created To Be His shares her testimony of how she fell into the false teachings of the patriarchy movement and the Pearls’ and the lessons she has learned since then.
Read More10 Commandments for Parents and 52 Tool Cards
Dulce de Leche continues her 10 Commandments For Parents series with The 10 Commandments for Parents: Taking His Name in Vain. Pearl in Oyster (PIO) continues her 52 Tool Cards series with 52 Tool Cards Double Feature: Focus on Solutions and Problem Solving. While we’re on the subject of gentle parenting, here is a Post…
Read MoreShowing Compassion To The Deceived
This blog has always tried to argue against false teachings without making those using those teachings feel condemned. That is a delicate balance and not always possible to achieve. It is not at all pleasant to find out that the choices one has prayerfully made are considered to be abuse by many people. And upon…
Read MoreElizabeth Esther on Anderson
Elizabeth Esther will be appearing on Anderson Cooper’s new daytime talk show (on FOX) with Michael Pearl this Friday (Dec 2, 2011) and she writes about it here, My appearance on Anderson Cooper’s daytime talk show airs this Friday, Dec. 2nd #NoMoreDeadKids. She includes a link to find out where and when you can watch…
Read MoreThe Fruit of Sheltered, Controlled Homeschoolers
Reb Bradley has a long and very informative article about mistakes he and other sheltering and controlling Christian homeschooling parents have made in Exposing Major Blind Spots of Homeschoolers. For more information about Reb Bradley’s teachings, please see the comments below as well as this post.
Read MoreTestimony: Why Pearl’s Methods Are Dangerous
An anonymous writer explains how she used to follow Pearls teachings to the letter and exactly how and why they are dangerous in Corpses Don’t Rebel: A former follower of Michael Pearl’s “To Train Up A Child” reacts to the death of Hana Williams. Deb of The Wartburg Watch posts about exposing Pearl’s teachings as…
Read MoreOriginal Sin
Lisa Bennet (Broken Daughters), who was raised by Pearl followers, looks at the concept of Original Sin and how it corresponds to the Pearls’ Teachings. In this post, she links to a very upsetting post by Libby Anne which contains an 1831 quote from Francis Wayland which sounds very much like Michael Pearl. You might…
Read MoreMore Unexpected Effects of Spanking
The Scientific Universalist reacts to CNN’s Ungodly Discipline series and shares her testimony of how “Biblical chastisement” affected her view of God. Meanwhile, Lisa, of Broken Daughters, shares how “Biblical chastisement” led to her self-destructive behavior in a heart breaking and difficult to read post.
Read MoreResponses to the CNN Story
Elizabeth Esther follows up on the CNN coverage of the Pearls’ teachings by explaining how these teachings lead to the sickness of Cognitive Dissonance which is what “happens when a teacher, pastor or person in authority advocates abusive methods while simultaneously recusing themselves from the actual, direct results of that abuse.” She also reminds us…
Read MoreMore Investigation from CNN
CNN continues its investigative report of abuse among fundamental Christians and how it relates to the Pearls’ teachings. Jocelyn Zichterman, who was raised in this culture and started Freedomfromabuse.net, explains the concept of Breaking The Will and how spankings must continue until the child submits even if it takes several hours. This video seems to…
Read MoreTwo More New Blogs
Here are 2 blogs which I think might be of interest: Rethinking Vision Forum looks like the place to send anyone who has questions about Vision Forum. It is all about “Examining the Fallacies of Vision Forum’s ‘Godly’ Family Living.” Since this blog links to the series to which I used to link in my…
Read MoreThere is No Fear in Love: Why Spanking Doesn’t Work
When I was ten until I was twelve years old, I attended a small non-denominational Christian school in which spanking was permitted. Although such practice is almost unheard of now, even among private schools, it was fairly common a few decades ago. Of course, like most Christians who spank, the rationale for using a paddle…
Read MoreAnother Anonymous Spanking Story
Dulce de Leche has posted Another Anonymous Post on Spanking in which the anonymous poster shares about how the spankings her younger brother received affected her.
Read MoreReflecting the Character of God
The Hippie Housewife discusses how we should reflect the character of God for our children. She looks at how attachment parenting looks a lot like how God cares for us and warns us about 3 heresies which are cropping up in many Christian teachings. Along the same lines, Pearl In Oyster (PIO) explains that we…
Read MoreWhat Do Children Think About Being Spanked?
What message do children really take away from corporeal punishment? Carissa Robinson has asked some mothers what they remembered about being spanked and posts their thoughts and stories in What Do They Really Think?
Read MoreBroken Daughters
I just found another blogger, Lisa Bennet, who is sharing her life story/testimony of being raised in a fundamentalist christian home. In Part 5 her parents start following the Pearls’ teachings.
Read MoreLooking Back on Being Spanked
Samuel Martin’s newest post reaches out to the Spanked and seeks ideas on how to help them convey their viewpoints to their parents. Meanwhile, Libby Anne has shared 2 posts sharing her testimony of how her parents’ adherence to the Pearls’ teachings affected her: Giving the Child the Rod, in which she shares about how…
Read MoreLetter to a family considering ATI
Robin shares her experiences with ATI (Bill Gothard’s teachings) in this Letter She Wrote to a Family Considering ATI.
Read MoreFruits of Gentle Discipline
Dulce de Leche explains how she came to chose Gentle Discipline 7 years ago and examines the fruits of her decision in 7 Year Harvest.
Read MoreThe Right Way to Spank?
Dulce de Leche questions the common idea that spanking is not harmful when done without anger in Spanking In Anger — What Does It Matter?
Read MoreAnother Letter To A Pastor About Spanking
Dulce de Leche shares a letter someone wrote to her pastor about her experiences with spanking and why she does not believe it should be preached from the pulpit. She shares her testimony of what it was like to be spanked and how it effected her. She also looks at the blurred distinction between spanking…
Read MoreMotherhood as Ministry
Candace of His Mercy is New looks at The Ministry of Motherhood and His Grace in My Life in this lovely testimony.
Read MoreRenouncing Patriocentric Teachings
pFamilyGal renounces her belief in patriocentric teachings and explains why in Freeeeedoooom.
Read MoreBetrothal
Eric M. Pazdziora writes about the Bondage of Betrothal at Quivering Daughters. This is a very good explanation of why the Courtship and Betrothal Movement is not Biblical. In response, Sister Lisa, at Soul Liberty Faith, writes about Betrothal and the Works of The Flesh in which she discusses how her family approached the concept…
Read MoreDoes God Want Us To Break Their Wills?
Elizabeth Esther has a post which discusses the idea that Even God Does Not Break Our Will. Along the same lines, The Wartburg Watch has reposted a letter from Bob Dixon explaining Why He Finally Left Sovereign Grace Ministries After 30 years.
Read MoreNational Spank Out Day
In honor of National Spank Out Day, Dulce de Leche asks what kind of Fruit does spanking produce in our lives. Her answer is Rotten Fruit. Also, check out Jen from A Path Less Taken’s post about Not Crying Over Spilled Milk . You will also want to check out her follow up post, Gentle…
Read MoreChildhood in the ATI World
John Cornish shares about of his Childhood in the ATI/IFB World and how it affected his life. This is not really about abuse per se, more of how a mindset damaged him. This mindset is known to lead to abuse and this testimony shows how damaging the mindset is. More importantly, he explains how scriptural…
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