Posts by Hermana Linda
REAL Parenting Joy
PfamilyGal expresses her concerns about the Pearls’ teachings in REAL Parenting Joy.
Read MoreAppearances
BarefootBetsy writes about how worrying about what others think affects our parenting on Dare to Disciple.
Read MoreA Stand For Truth
Pearl in Oyster has a post examining what the Bible says about how to respond to false teachers in A Stand For Truth. If false teachers are to be treated kindly and patiently and instructed gently, how much more should I be kind, patient and gentle with my child? If it’s God’s job to change…
Read MoreNew Book About Patriarchy
Under Much Grace discusses Jon Zens’ New Book, No Will of My Own (How Patriarchy Smothers Female Dignity and Personhood).
Read MoreBeing fair to the IFB Churches
The Brevia Reading room asks if the Independent Fundamental Baptist Churches being unfairly demonized. This pretty much sums up what I believe. I am a member of a Independent Fundamental Baptist Church and which is nothing like these churches which are falling into legalism and and spiritual abuse and going so far as to cover…
Read MoreReligious Child Maltreatment
Janet Heimlich has written a book, Breaking Their Will: Shedding Light On Religious Child Maltreatment (Prometheus Books, 2011), which is due out June 1. More information on her website. If anyone reads this book and sends me a review of it, I will be glad to post it here.
Read MoreBetrothal
Eric M. Pazdziora writes about the Bondage of Betrothal at Quivering Daughters. This is a very good explanation of why the Courtship and Betrothal Movement is not Biblical. In response, Sister Lisa, at Soul Liberty Faith, writes about Betrothal and the Works of The Flesh in which she discusses how her family approached the concept…
Read MoreRaised with Gentle Discipline
Dulce de Leche shares about Tony Hillerman, an author who was raised with Gentle Discipline. This post should provide peace of mind for those who sometimes worry that raising their children with Gentle Discipline could lead to disaster.
Read MoreWhen The Child Abuser Has a Bible
In Dec of 2010 The Official Newsletter of the National Child Protection Training Center featured an article entitled, When the Child Abuser Has a Bible: Investigating Child Maltreatment Sanctioned or Condoned by a Religious Leader. They mention To Train Up A Child by Michael and Debi Pearl in the footnotes and include a quote from…
Read MoreHealthy Boundaries
Dulce de Leche explains how important healthy boundaries and how to teach them to your children in Building Fences.
Read MoreDoes God Want Us To Break Their Wills?
Elizabeth Esther has a post which discusses the idea that Even God Does Not Break Our Will. Along the same lines, The Wartburg Watch has reposted a letter from Bob Dixon explaining Why He Finally Left Sovereign Grace Ministries After 30 years.
Read MoreGentle Parenting Toolbox part 2
Dulce de Leche has posted part 2 of her teaching on the Gentle Discipline Toolbox.
Read MoreNational Spank Out Day
In honor of National Spank Out Day, Dulce de Leche asks what kind of Fruit does spanking produce in our lives. Her answer is Rotten Fruit. Also, check out Jen from A Path Less Taken’s post about Not Crying Over Spilled Milk . You will also want to check out her follow up post, Gentle…
Read MoreChildhood in the ATI World
John Cornish shares about of his Childhood in the ATI/IFB World and how it affected his life. This is not really about abuse per se, more of how a mindset damaged him. This mindset is known to lead to abuse and this testimony shows how damaging the mindset is. More importantly, he explains how scriptural…
Read MoreMichael Pearl: Heretic?
Becky, from Created To Be His, shares how she changed her mind about Michael Pearl’s teachings after 10 years of following them in Michael Pearl: Heretic?
Read MoreCan a Parent be a Friend?
Dulce de Leche considers the common idea that a parent should not be a friend to their children in BFFs. She also has a new post with more info about your Personal Toolbox which you really should check out.
Read MoreOld Case of Spanking Caused Renal Failure Discovered
Under Much Grace has discovered information of a case from 2002 of a boy being “disciplined” into Renal Failure. Disclaimer: this is not the case of parents disciplining their child, this is a case of 22 yr old men disciplining a young boy for way too long and ending up in jail. One later wrote…
Read MoreBorn Sinners
Rachel Stone discusses whether babies are Little Sinners and how that teaching relates to spanking.
Read MoreFilling Your Gentle Discipline Toolbox
Pearl In Oyster, of An Apprenticeship in the Art of Gentle Discipline, has just started sharing 52 Tool Cards starting with Week 1: 3 Rs of Recovery. You’re going to want to follow her blog in order to read each episode of this series.
Read MoreWartburg Watch and IFB
The Wartburg Watch Focuses on Independent Fundamental Baptist Churches this week. So far they have: Is The Independent Fundamental Baptist Church Any Different Than the Southern Baptist Convention and Sovereign Grace Ministries? The Independent Fundamental Baptist Church Sounds Like Mark Driscoll and The Rest of Them Who Do The Independent Fundamental Baptists Say They Are?…
Read MoreHeartbreaking Abuse
Warning, the first post should not be read by sensitive people: The Breaking the “Diabolical Will” of Infants in the IFB – Even at Hephzibah House: Pondering Pearl and Lydia Schatz Part VII There But For Grace: Why Good People Make Dangerous Choices (Pondering Pearl and Lydia Schatz) Part VIII Humiliation at Hephzibah House: Restriction…
Read MoreGentle Parenting Tools
Dulce de Leche is coached in gentle parenting by her 7 yr old in Wise as Serpents, Harmless as Doves.
Read MoreMore Responses to the 20/20 IFB Story
Bob Bixby shares an update from Tina Anderson’s husband. Tina, as you may remember, was featured on the 20/20 story about abuse in some IFB churches. And here are 2 more responses to the 20/20 show: 20/20 And The IFB Culture by Baptist Thinker IFB by David Schmidt from Thoughts of an Unlearned. And if…
Read MoreUnderstanding The Nature of Children
Discipleship Parenting writes about Understanding the Nature of Children in which she looks at what the Bible says about the nature of infants and children and what our response to them should be. Dulce de Leche also writes about the sin nature of babies in Sons of Adam Daughters of Eve.
Read MoreA Former Trinity Baptist Insider and the 20/20 IFB Story
Bob Bixby has posted a statement from Laura Moody, Formally from Trinity Baptist Church, about her relationship with those involved with the scandal featured in the 20/20 story about abuse in some IFB churches. Read the comments for more hashing out of details. Bob Bixby also has a post addressing Brian Fuller’s comments in that…
Read MoreDamaging Effects of Punishment on Children
GreeneGem explains the damage which was done to her by her mothers trampling on her Boundaries. Speaking of damage, did you know that when babies are left to cry it out, their little bodies are being flooded with Cortisol? Discipleship Parenting looks at what effect that has on them. Meanwhile Pearl, from An Apprenticeship in…
Read MoreSpanking Infants???
Elizabeth Esther posted about the 20/20 exposé of abuse in some IBF churches and interprets Pastor Brian Fuller’s remarks. She explains the teaching of first time obedience and how common the spanking of infants really in these churches. By the way, some of the comments of this blog post seem to have inside information in…
Read MoreMemories of a Child Raised by the Pearl Method
No Longer Quivering has started a new story by Libby Anne about her childhood in which she was raised by the Pearl Method. In part 1 she tells about how her mother almost killed her little sister by strict adherence to the Pearl Method.
Read MorePlea Deal Reached in Kevin and Elizabeth Schatz Murder Case
It looks like the Schatz trial is off. There has been a plea bargain. Here is the story from KHSL-TV: The Paradise couple accused of beating their adopted daughter to death and critically injuring another will not be going trial after reaching a last minute plea deal with prosecutors. Trial for Kevin and Elizabeth Schatz…
Read MoreABC News Exposes Abuse in some IFB Churches
ABC News Exposes Alleged Abuse in some IFB Churches on this News Video. The Schatz story is mentioned as well as the recent Lori Wick Child Abuse Scandal. Brian Fuller of Trinity Baptist Church condemns the abuse and insists that not all IFB churches are the same. I agree with him, as my Independent Fundamental…
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