Who is God?

Molly asks, “Who is God?”  as she shares her testimony of how she learned to see God as a Gentle Parent, rather than a Vengeful Judge.

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You Always Hurt The One You Love?

Molly remembers the messages she got as a child that parents must hurt their children because they love them.    What kind of damage does that do to a child? And speaking of damage.  What kind of damage is done to a child who is given a Roy Lessin spanking for every infraction? Especially when not…

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Spanking is NOT God’s Will Part 3

( Part 1 ) ( Part 2 ) I finished Samuel Martin’s book, Thy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me today.  Here’s more of what I have learned about God’s Word. Many Christian advocates of spanking children quote the following Proverb in order to support their philosophy that spanking children will save their souls from Hell.  It says:…

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Spanking is NOT God’s Will Part 2

(Part 1) After reading and studying more today in this wonderful book by Samuel Martin and doing my own Bible study, here are some things that God has revealed to me. First, the book of Proverbs is the oldest book in the Holy Bible.  While King Solomon and King Hezekiah wrote most of Proverbs, according to Martin’s…

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Spanking is NOT God’s Will Part 1

I am reading a wonderful book by theologian, Samuel Martin, Thy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me. It’s clear from historic, contextual, Hebrew info on the book of Proverbs that we are NOT to spank (hit) children. The book of Proverbs was not meant for verses to be taken out of context. Even Jewish…

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The Hows of Gentle Discipline

The Hippie Housewife explains The Hows of Gentle Discipline in a very helpful post.  This post is invaluable for anyone who wishes to give up spanking and needs help figuring out what to do instead.

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Lucy’s Story

Lucy tells her story at Dare To Disciple. She shares how her views of spanking have changed during her lifetime and why she feels that spanking and Christianity are incompatible.

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Good Parenting Resources

Dulce de Leche shares how she rejected the teachings of Ezzo and Pearl and what she replaced them with in Christian Parenting Books: How Our Bookshelf Grew. She then shares her Christian Parenting Books Recommendations which is a very good resource. And here are her Discipline Books Recommendations. Back in April she shared another very…

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Grace Is For Mamas, too

Dulce has done a post at Authentic Parenting Blog called, Gently Disciplining Ourselves – Part I.  In this post she explains how to be the kind of parent you were planing to be when you were a child. Here is Part 2. Here is Part 3.

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My Experiences With Spanking

“Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” -Prov 22:15 This Bible verse and the idea that it refers to a literal rod encompassed most of my mother’s parenting philosophy. How to Be the Parents of Happy and Obedient Children by Roy Lessin…

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The Danger Dilemma

Many parents reserve spankings for life or death situations.  Is there really any value in that?  Will spanking really protect children from danger?  GreeneGem answers that question in The Danger Dilemma.

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I Don’t Spank My Children by Rachel

Discipline and Discipleship These words (obviously) share a root word. As a Christian parent, I see these words as inseparable. There are, of course, times when I forget that disciplining my children is ultimately an act of disciple-ing them, but overall this is how I view God’s intended role for me as a mother. I…

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What Gentle Discipline Is Not – Part 3

Carissa Robinson continues her explanation of what Gentle Discipline is not with what Gentle Discipline is not in What Gentle Discipline is Not, Continued Again 🙂. This post looks at “Gentle discipline is not something that occurs only when unacceptable behavior manifests itself” aka “Gentle Discipline is not sporadic.” Here is the rest of her…

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Gluesticks

Sometimes I hear confusion about the idea of using  gluesticks for spanking.  This does not mean the little 3 inch gluesticks, it means the 12 inch ones.  For more about spanking and gluesticks, please see Gangbangers and Gluesticks.

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Spanking and Proverbs – Part 1: Context

BarefootBetsy is starting a series about what the Bible teaches about Spanking with Spanking and Proverbs – Part 1: Context She explains the purpose for her series, saying: Indeed, this very post is being written right now because of one of the comments I received! I encourage you to read the second comment and my…

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Grace Based Discipline and the Oppositional Child

Recently I posted a link to what Gentle Discipline is not, today we will look at Gentle Discipline is. GreeneGem has written a very useful post about Grace Based Discipline and the Oppositional Child. You will certainly want to read this post because she gives very clear and detailed examples as well as explaining what…

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The Explaination

One-hit_wonder has posted a very impassioned explanation of why she feels so strongly about the Pearls’ teaching that she was willing to cause family strife by speaking out against them. I also want to thank her for using my TTUAC quotes and linking to me. <3

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Regarding Punishments

Barefoot Betsy shares a letter explaining why she does not believe in spanking in Regarding Punishments over at Dare To Disciple. Also, I have not yet mentioned Greenegem’s post about Shame, The Legacy Of Punishment on the same blog.

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What Gentle Discipline is Not

Those who desire to give up spanking need a viable alternative. My recommendation is Gentle Discipline aka Grace Based Discipline. Carissa Robinson shares what Gentle Discipline is not which is also helpful, especially to those who have rejected it because of a lack of understanding.

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Is Spanking Biblical? Part 3: Spanking Relieves Guilt?

Carissa continues her series with Is Spanking Biblical? Part 3: Spanking Relieves Guilt? Here is a quote: Now, doesn’t it seem pretty hypocritical of Christian parents to spank their children for their children’s sins, but then themselves be able to turn to a perfect Lamb when they sin? Why can’t we point our children to…

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Boundries

Don’t miss GreenGem’s latest post where she explains boundaries. While you’re there, also check out her previous post, Nice to meet you…Einstein! where she explains how children learn to do things themselves. Really, you should subscribe to this blog’s RSS feed, because each post is a invaluable explanation of how spanking and punitive parenting damage our children and…

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Behaviour Modification

This blog post is exactly one year old today. I am linking to it because I just found it and have always found this topic interesting.  Behaviour Modification: Punishment by Hippie Housewife.  Here is a quote: …Every day I hear the same parenting advice – punishment and rewards, threats and praise, negative and positive attention.…

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