Posts Tagged ‘child development’
Science and Spanking
So, there have been some new studies lately regarding spanking. While I realize that many Christians don’t give a fig what the scientists say, many do and I thought it might be helpful to link to some articles about these studies. Here is an article from Scientific American. Here is an article from IFL Science. I…
Read MoreLisa’s Response to Debi Pearl’s Prayer for the destruction of her enemies
Lisa has said very well what I have had neither the time nor energy to write so I am going to give her comments the exposure they deserve. In response to my post regarding Debi Pearl’s public prayer asking God to destroy her enemies, Lisa said: I read the article, also, and I was appalled.…
Read MoreSparing The Rod And Parental Discipleship
This article,“Sparing the Rod: Biblical Discipline and Parental Discipleship,” by Anne Eggebroten was published in the newsletter, The Other Side in 1987. In this long article, she not only explains why she gave up spanking and examines the link between discipline and discipleship, but she looks at the history of attitudes towards children.
Read MoreBabies, Children and Sin Nature
Stephanie just started a new blog called The Shepherd’s Apprentice. In her first post, she explains about the sin nature of babies and children and how we should respond to it. She then posts about Selfish Babies or rather, if there is such a thing. She ties it up with a look at Sin, How…
Read MoreIs Defiance Real?
I have been thinking a lot about defiance lately. Is it real when it comes to young children? Most parents would emphatically answer, “Yes” to this question. I am not so sure though. According to dictionary.com, defiance is defined as “A daring or bold resistance to authority or to any opposing force.” To me, this…
Read MoreChildren as Sinners?
Samuel Martin has the following to say about his essay, O Wretched Child that I am. This text may be the most important New Testament scripture for those parents who have small children – I Corinthians 2:11. “For who knows a person’s thoughts except the spirit of that person, which is in him?” – Why?…
Read MoreWhen a Toddler Won’t Obey
The Hippie Housewife shares 3 Ways to Respond to a Toddler Who Won’t Listen.
Read MoreReb Bradley
Latebloomer was raised in Reb Bradley’s church, Hope Chapel, and is one of the Sheltered, Controlled Homeschoolers who “didn’t ‘turn out right,’ yet another disappointment to the former parents and leadership of Hope Chapel.” She shares some important insights about this in “Biblical” Parenting, Introduction. (By the way, I was surprised to see Kevin and Elizabeth…
Read MoreTeach Your Babies Well
The following was originally posted in thread on Gentle Christian Mothers called, “…And I’m the Strict One!“and is a follow up to my previous post, Teach Your Children Well. At 4 months, what you want to be doing is starting the phase of ‘discipline’ that I call “show and tell” — it’s not a phase…
Read MoreThou Shalt Not Kill The Spirit of Thy Children
Dulce de Leche continues her 10 Commandments for Parents series with Thou Shalt Not Kill. In this post she discusses how parents often kill pieces of their children’s individuality. Also, take note of this post by Sara Mae which looks at The Nature of A Child and why we should respond to their tantrums with…
Read MoreDelayed or grudging obedience is disobedience?
Claire continues her Myth Busting series with Myth Busting 9: Right Away, All the Way, With a Happy Heart – or it’s Rebellion! Part I: Delayed or grudging obedience is disobedience? Part II: Is Disobedience to Parents Rebellion?
Read MoreDiscipline without Harm Part 1
In this series we will be looking at how to biblically discipline our children without inflicting pain on them or harming them in any way. Some of the discipline strategies that we will be discussing throughout this series are modeling, child-proofing, validating feelings, fulfilling the child’s physical and emotional needs, setting realistic limits and boundaries,…
Read MoreA Psychology Professor Critiques the Pearls’ Teachings
Southern Methodist University (SMU) in Dallas has uploaded a video from FOX News in which “SMU Psychology Professor George Holden, who specializes in child-parent relationships and positive child rearing, talks critically about Michael and Debi Pearl’s book “To Train Up A Child,” which advocates spanking.” More information about Professor Holden here.
Read MoreFox News Continues Their Pearl Coverage
Fox 13 News Salt Lake City reports on the Pearls with a repeat of the Fox Video I shared on Feb 22, but with a new video which I will embed here. This video features Child Psychologist, Douglas Goldsmith PH.D., who refutes the Pearls’ teachings and recommends instead that parents follow How to Talk So…
Read MoreShould Obedience Be The Goal of Parenting?
The Hippie Housewife asks if our goal for our children should be Obedience or something else. On a similar note, Created To Be His muses on the idea that Sons of Hell Can Be Rather Impressive. Meanwhile, Pearl in Oyster (PIO) continues her 52 Tool Cards series with 52 Tool Cards Double Feature: Act Without…
Read MoreMore from Under Much Grace
I would like to draw your attention to some more interesting posts from Under Much Grace. What It’s Like to Experience Only the Right Side of the Brain in the Way that Children Do (A Neuroscientist Experiences a Stroke on the Left, Analytical Side of the Brain) which debunks the Pearls’ claim that very young…
Read MoreThe Science Behind Happy And Compliant Children
Cindy of Under Much Grace explains the scientific evidence that shows the damage done to children who suffer harsh punishment from a young age. Parents who follow Pearls’ advice to punish toddlers for age appropriate behaviors may end up with seemingly happy and compliant children, but at what price?
Read MoreUnderstanding Brainwashing and How Children Are Primed for Victimization
Cindy of Under Much Grace takes informative and very technical looks at abusive behavior, analyzing both the victims and the abusers. She has a new series about brainwashing. I want to make special note of part 7 in which she ties the information to the Pearls’ teachings. Here is a short summary which she wrote…
Read MoreWhere Did Pearl Say This?
In this interview in the National Post, Pearl is quoted as saying: But, I have said many times, when a spanking is not working, stop doing it. There are times when children become so emotionally torn that they have ceased all cognitive activity. Spanking is then counterproductive. Frankly, I don’t recall him every saying that. …
Read MoreUnderstanding Our Little Ones
MamaPsalmist discusses a post from Positive Parenting which explains why Nonpunitive Discipline ≠ Lazy Parenting in Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond: Nonpunitive Discipline ≠ Lazy Parenting. On a similar note, Elizabeth (from Virginia Is For Mothers) shares some very helpful insight about giving grace and understanding to Child Size Problems. And Pearl In Oyster (PIO)…
Read MoreDisequilibrium
Carissa Robinson explains the concept of Disequilibrium and what it looks like for her 3 yr old who is Swiftly Approaching Disequilibrium. This concept is from a series of books by Louise Bates Ames & Frances L. Ilg about what age appropriate behavior you can expect from children at each age. Learning about this is very…
Read MoreHow to Avoid Frustration
Pearl in Oyster (PIO) shares some really helpful advice which is sure to help avoid frustration in your household. This post is from her 52 Tool Cards series and is called, Eye to Eye. She mentions a child’s brain development in her post which brings me to an excerpt from Samuel Martin’s newest book in…
Read MoreReflecting the Character of God
The Hippie Housewife discusses how we should reflect the character of God for our children. She looks at how attachment parenting looks a lot like how God cares for us and warns us about 3 heresies which are cropping up in many Christian teachings. Along the same lines, Pearl In Oyster (PIO) explains that we…
Read MoreUnderstanding Consequences
Greenegem at Dare to Disciple looks at Understanding Consequences as a developmental ability in “Inconceivable.”
Read MoreResponses to Our Critics
pFamilyGal considers the question of whether it is right for Christians to condemn the Pearls’ teachings in Called to Judge. Pearl In Oyster (PIO) responds to her critics in More Thoughts on Biblical Parenting where she discusses Divine Punishment vs. Grace, Spanking for Danger Situations and the Rod Verses.
Read MoreBook Review: Thy Rod and Thy Staff, They Comfort Me, Part II
Dulce de Leche has finally posted part 2 of her book review of Samuel Martin’s book, Thy Rod and Thy Staff, They Comfort Me where she discusses the content of the book chapter by chapter.
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