National Spank Out Day

In honor of National Spank Out Day, Dulce de Leche asks what kind of Fruit does spanking produce in our lives.  Her answer is Rotten Fruit. Also, check out Jen from A Path Less Taken’s post about Not Crying Over Spilled Milk .  You will also want to check out her follow up post, Gentle…

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Childhood in the ATI World

John Cornish shares about of his Childhood in the ATI/IFB World and how it affected his life.  This is not really about abuse per se, more of how a mindset damaged him.  This mindset is known to lead to abuse and this testimony shows how damaging the mindset is.   More importantly, he explains how scriptural…

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Can a Parent be a Friend?

Dulce de Leche considers the common idea that a parent should not be a friend to their children in BFFs. She also has a new post with more info about your Personal Toolbox which you really should check out.

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Old Case of Spanking Caused Renal Failure Discovered

Under Much Grace has discovered information of a case from 2002 of a boy being  “disciplined” into Renal Failure.   Disclaimer:  this is not the case of parents disciplining their child, this is a case of 22 yr old men disciplining a young boy for way too long and ending up in jail.  One later wrote…

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Filling Your Gentle Discipline Toolbox

Pearl In Oyster, of An Apprenticeship in the Art of Gentle Discipline, has just started sharing 52 Tool Cards starting with Week 1: 3 Rs of Recovery. You’re going to want to follow her blog in order to read each episode of this series.

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Wartburg Watch and IFB

The Wartburg Watch Focuses on Independent Fundamental Baptist Churches this week.  So far they have: Is The Independent Fundamental Baptist Church Any Different Than the Southern Baptist Convention and Sovereign Grace Ministries? The Independent Fundamental Baptist Church Sounds Like Mark Driscoll and The Rest of Them Who Do The Independent Fundamental Baptists Say They Are?…

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Heartbreaking Abuse

Warning, the first post should not be read by sensitive people: The Breaking the “Diabolical Will” of Infants in the IFB – Even at Hephzibah House: Pondering Pearl and Lydia Schatz Part VII There But For Grace: Why Good People Make Dangerous Choices (Pondering Pearl and Lydia Schatz) Part VIII Humiliation at Hephzibah House: Restriction…

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More Responses to the 20/20 IFB Story

Bob Bixby shares an update from Tina Anderson’s husband. Tina, as you may remember, was featured on the 20/20 story about abuse in some IFB churches. And here are 2 more responses to the 20/20 show: 20/20 And The IFB Culture by Baptist Thinker IFB by David Schmidt from Thoughts of an Unlearned. And if…

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Understanding The Nature of Children

Discipleship Parenting writes about Understanding the Nature of Children in which she looks at what the Bible says about the nature of infants and children and what our response to them should be. Dulce de Leche also writes about the sin nature of babies in Sons of Adam Daughters of Eve.

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A Former Trinity Baptist Insider and the 20/20 IFB Story

Bob Bixby has posted a statement from Laura Moody, Formally from Trinity Baptist Church, about her relationship with those involved with the scandal featured in the 20/20 story about abuse in some IFB churches.  Read the comments for more hashing out of details. Bob Bixby also has a post addressing Brian Fuller’s comments in that…

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Damaging Effects of Punishment on Children

GreeneGem explains the damage  which was done to her by her mothers trampling on her Boundaries. Speaking of damage, did you know that when babies are left to cry it out, their little bodies are being flooded with Cortisol?   Discipleship Parenting looks at what  effect that has on them. Meanwhile Pearl, from An Apprenticeship in…

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Spanking Infants???

Elizabeth Esther posted about the 20/20 exposé of abuse in some IBF churches and interprets Pastor Brian Fuller’s remarks.  She explains the teaching of first time obedience  and how common the spanking of infants really in these churches. By the way, some of the comments of this blog post seem to have inside information in…

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Plea Deal Reached in Kevin and Elizabeth Schatz Murder Case

It looks like the Schatz trial is off. There has been a plea bargain.  Here is the story from KHSL-TV: The Paradise couple accused of beating their adopted daughter to death and critically injuring another will not be going trial after reaching a last minute plea deal with prosecutors. Trial for Kevin and Elizabeth Schatz…

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ABC News Exposes Abuse in some IFB Churches

ABC News Exposes Alleged Abuse in some IFB Churches on this News Video. The Schatz story is mentioned as well as the recent Lori Wick Child Abuse Scandal.  Brian Fuller of Trinity Baptist Church condemns the abuse and insists that not all IFB churches are the same.  I agree with him, as my Independent Fundamental…

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Gentle Parenting of Teens

Lucy tells us how she gently parents her teenager at Dare to Disciple. Along similar lines, Virginia Is For Mothers has written a post about using Calm Words with our children rather than yelling and/or scolding.  This is a good reminder for all of us. Meanwhile, Under Much Grace continues with her series analyzing the…

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Biblical Perspectives on Spanking

Ordained Minister( and Parenting and Relationship expert)  Thomas Haller has written an article with Chick Moorman called, Biblical Perspectives on Spanking in which they take a closer look at the typical verses which are considered to command parents to spank. Samuel Martin’s book, Thy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me, also studies those verses,…

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Analyzing the Schatz Tragedy

Cindy, from Under Much Grace, analyzes what causes people like Kevin and Elizabeth Schatz to harm their children in a new series: Why Good People Make Dangerous Choices (Pondering Pearl and Lydia Schatz) An Introduction Part I: Virtue In Place of Unquestioned Obedience. Part II: How Dehumanization (and Declaring War Against Family Members) Causes Moral…

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Document of Abuse

Rebecca Diamond has posted a copy of the Criminal Complaint against Timothy and Andrea Wick (son and daughter-in-law of novelist Lori Wick) and the other church members in Read It And Weep.

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Another Case of Renal Failure

Cindy of Under Much Grace has discovered another case of a child being hospitalized with Renal Failure.   This family is also known to follow the Pearl’s method of child training.  It is not known at this time if this is another case of rhabdomyolosis or not.

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Adversary or Advocate?

This article by Sally Clarkson asks us to consider whether we want our children see us as Adversaries or Advocates. Along similar lines, Dulce de Leche writes about different ways of seeing God in Sinners in the Hands of an Angry God. Edited to add: Sally Clarkson has more to say on this topic in…

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Kidney Damage and The Pearl Method

Cindy, of Under Much Grace, explains exactly what Rhabdomyolosis is in, How Do We Track Kidney Failure and Kidney Damage in Children Who Are Trained Using the Pearl Method? She explains that kidney damage is permanent and wonders how many children are living with a chronic yet undiagnosed condition in this important and informative post.…

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Gentle Parenting of Toddlers

Pearl In Oyster from An Apprenticeship in the Art of Gentle Discipline blog shares about how she gently disciplines her 2 and a half year old in Rubber Meets the Road. Meanwhile, Carissa Robinson explains how she gently deals with Blatant Disobedience in her toddler.

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Series on First Time Obedience

Cindy of Under Much Grace has posted part 5 of her series about First Time Obedience: Revisiting First Time Obedience: Finding New Alternatives For your convenience I will paste here the links to the rest of the series along with her descriptions: ►First Time Obedience Introduction The Selfish Sin of Shyness A review of the…

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