“Life with Cerebral Palsy” with Stephanie Cox

Dara Stoltzfus has started a new series about our very own Steph called, “Life with Cerebral Palsy” with Stephanie Cox.

Here is what she has so far:

Introduction

Hobby Lobby and Bill Gothard

Micah Murray explains more about Hobby Lobby’s Sincerely Held Religious Beliefs and how much Bill Gothard has influenced them. He also looks at the Duggars in this piece.

Bill Gothard: The Board’s Conclusion

The board who was investigating Bill Gothard has concluded that he acted inappropriately but not criminally, according to an article in the Chicago Sun Times.

Of course, there will be plenty of blog posts analyzing this conclusion to which I will link as I find them.

Here is Recovering Grace’s response to this statement.

Victoria Strong Analyses The Strong-Willed Child by James Dobson

Victoria Strong blames her abusive childhood on the teachings of Dr. James Dobson and is now reviewing his book, The Strong-Willed Child.  She explains why in this heartbreaking quote:

So that is why I’m reviewing this book. I need to know what it says. I need some answers as to why my parents seemed to hate me so much. Why they were constantly angry with me. Why I was beaten with belts, punched in the stomach, slammed into walls, slapped across the face, and berated constantly, all in the name of tough love, the Bible, and most often, “Dr. Dobson says…”. Why I was never permitted to tell my side of the story or explain myself. Why they always, always, always assumed the worst about me. I need to know. I need to heal. So without further adieu, let’s dig in, shall we?

She starts here with the Dedication, and already has 7 posts up and is only on page 19 of the book at this writing.

It is very sad that her parents tried to raise her under Biblical teachings and yet failed to raise her to believe the Bible as an authority in her life.  This is just another example of how these kinds of harsh teachings fail both children and their parents.

Disclaimer: this blog contains mild profanity.

Another case of abuse

There are so many tragic cases of abuse, I don’t usually mention them unless the abuse was clearly tied to Christian teachings.  In the case of the Barbours the ties are not indisputable, but there are some pretty good hints.  Thankfully, this case did not end in death.

Maureen compares the Barbours with the Williams and finds quite a few eerie similarities.

There is a lot of information the 2 articles she links to from the Pittsburgh Post Gazette.

This story from Oct 2012 tells about how the adoption ended in tragedy.

This story from June 2014 is the follow up and tells us that the couple pleaded No Contest.

Jennifer McGrail Reviews “Jesus, The Gentle Parent”

Jennifer McGrail Reviews “Jesus, The Gentle Parent” by L.R. Knost.

Here is a short excerpt from her review:

Not shying away from any of the tough questions, she tackles such issues as spanking, sin, authority, obedience and submission…. and what it all means (and doesn’t mean) –  to a gentle parent whose desire is to parent in Jesus’s footsteps.

The Truth About The Old Schoolhouse

I have warned people about the Old Schoolhouse before, telling them that its founders, Paul and Gena Suarez, promoted the Pearls’ teachings and defended them.  When I visit their Facebook page, I am always surprised to see that some of my friends like that page.  Maybe the fact that they support and defend the Pearls (while old news) is not well known.  

I have discovered that not only do they promote the Pearls, but they are now being accused of horrible abuse.  Jenefer Igarishi had written about that, but she has since removed the posts pending the results of their Mediation Attempt.

Update: Jenefer has more info here.

Update:  Homeschoolers Anonymous has an investigative report on this story here.

 

Book Reviews of “13:24: A Story of Faith and Obsession”

Calulu has a book review of M. Dolon Hickmon’s book 13:24. She  gives the book high marks for being a very enjoyable and gripping mystery story.  Although The Pearls and their book are not mentioned by name in this book, Calulu finds it clear that the story directly relates to his teachings.  She also shares a little about her own encounter with followers of Pearls’ teachings:

I’ve written many a time about my first encounter with Michael Pearl’s ‘To Train Up A Child’ upon joining my old church. My youngest was 4 years old and had been in and out of the hospital with spinal meningitis and idiopathic thrombotic purpura (a bleeding disorder) and she tended to cling to me all the time. People at the new church gave me Pearl’s book and I was told I must physically discipline Laura to make her stop clinging to me. Yes, I was told to beat a child with a rare bleeding disorder to stop her from what I knew was natural behavior in a child that had been in and out of the hospital. That type of cruelty is at the heart of ’13:24′.

 

Also, don’t miss this book review from WND.

Questions for Pro-Spankers

Here are 10 questions to ask those who believe that the Bible commands us to spank our children.

Excerpt From “Jesus, The Gentle Parent”

Here is an excerpt from L. R. Knost’s book, Jesus, The Gentle Parent which explains the Rod verses in Proverbs.

Here is a review of her book and a Giveaway from Positive Parenting.

For Those Who Were Following The Hana Story

Maureen has a follow up to the Hana Story which I found interesting.

Jesus, The Gentle Parent by L.R. Knost

L.R. Knost’s new book, Jesus, The Gentle Parent is now available at Amazon.com.

Here is some information about the book from her Facebook page (suitable for sharing.)

And here is information about the book from her webpage, Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources.

I’m hearing good things about this book and will post book reviews as I find them.

eta:  More info here.

Korrine Looks At The Damaging Effects Of Spanking

Korrine Britton explains how the cognitive development of  2 and 3 year olds makes them appear to be lying in Parenting: Two to Three Years.

For more from this series which explains the damaging effects of spanking on children through the years, you will want to check out:
Parenting: Newborn to 12 months
Parenting: 1 to 2 years

A Father Of Four’s Journey To Gentle Discipline

Samuel Martin has shared a lovely letter from a father of four boys who decided to give up spanking after reading his book.  Here is a short excerpt.

…What mattered was that the Bible told us to spank. I figured we would talk it through and I would defend the biblical position. In my mind, if God said it, it was true (“Romans 3:4 “let God be found true, though every man be found a liar”). I wasn’t expecting what she hit me with. Every biblical argument I offered, she countered…

When Christian Leaders Fall

JenIG discusses how Christians should react to news about fallen Christian leaders in When The Body Cuts Itself To Pieces.

The Christian Body is a living organism. We must operate as a body. Nobody gets a splinter and hacks off his foot. At the same time, rare is the sane person who knows they have gangrene and merrily goes about their way as it spreads and rots the rest of his body.

World Mag Looks At the Pearls

Kiley Crossland of World Magazine takes a look at the Pearl’s teachings in To Train Up A Pharisee.

Review of TTUAC on HeraldNet

Jenny Bardsley has a post on HeraldNet honoring Hana Alemu “Williams” and reviewing the Pearl’s book, To Train Up A Child.

She speaks more about the book and homeschooling here.

She also discusses their teachings in her review of Elizabeth Esther‘s book.

Doug Phillips Being Sued By Former Nanny

Doug Phillips stepped down last October after admitting to an inappropriate relationship with a woman.

On March 27, the Christian Post reported that he was threatening his closest friends of conspiring to destroy him.

On April 14, WND reported that Lourdes Torres, Doug Phillips former nanny, was suing him.

Vision Forum denied the allegations on their Facebook wall.

So, You Think Spanking Is OK Because You Turned Out Fine?

Samuel Martin has a new blog post entitled, “So you think corporal punishment/spanking/smacking is ok because you turned out fine: Think again”.

News Article About Stephanie Cox

The Southern Illinoisan has an article about Stephanie Cox and and how she came to write a gentle Parenting book with her nose.

Here is more information about Stephanie Cox.

Gentle Firmness by Stephanie Cox Needs Reviews

Stephanie Cox’s book, Gentle Firmness is now available  everywhere books are sold.  You can find it at Amazon.com as well as Barns And Noble.

If you have read the book (or the rough draft of it when it was here on this site,) please go and leave your review.

If you have not had a chance to read it, you can still read some large excerpts here.

Bill Gothard Resigns

Religion News Service reports that Bill Gothard has resigned from his position after being put on administrative leave following allegations of abuse.

 For background info about Bill Gothard, please see this post from Cindy, written a few days before his resignation.

Bill Gothard In The Spotlight After Abuse Allegations

World Mag Reports that Bill Gothard has been placed on administrative leave while they research recent  allegations of abuse.

Sarah Pulliam Bailey has an investigative report on this story on ReligionNews.com and here is the story from the Christian Post.

Naturally this story has impacted many people. Here is a testimony from Micah Murray which reflects on this news as he looks at Growing Up in Bill Gothard’s Homeschool Cult.

 

Why Heather Schopp Stopped Spanking

Heather Schopp explains how she came to give up spanking in this testimony shared on Samuel Martin’s blog. This blog post is part of a Facebook discussion found here.

Dara Stoltzfus has this and other testimonies here.

Kansas Spanking Bill Dies In Committee

The Kansas bill which would allow spanking in schools as well as allowing parents to swat children up to 10 times and leave bruising without legal repercussions has died in committee.  Here are 2 stories about that:

Spanking bill dies in Kansas House committee from the Wichita Eagle

Kansas Makes Us Proud! Backward Bill Expanding Spanking Rights in Schools Dies in Committee from Take Part

Kansas Bill Would Allow Spanking in Schools

Fox News reports that in Kansas there is a bill proposing allowing spanking in schools.   Supporters claim that it would help children learn to respect authority.  This bill would allow parents, and those to whom they give permission, to leave redness and bruising.

The Wichita Eagle has more information about the spanking bill.  Apparently they are trying to define the difference between corporal punishment and abuse and protect parents from legal retribution when they hit a child under those guidelines.  This is generating a lot of controversy, I will keep my eyes on it.

Stopspanking.org analyses this issue here and reports that the bill is considered highly unlikely to pass.

Child Abuse in Germany

Jennifer Stahl has been explaining about child abuse going on in German churches on her Blog, Yeshua Hineni. In this post she writes about the Pearl’s book To Train Up A Child which, while not being sold, is available “under the table.”  She Translates and transcribes a video about the concerns one woman has for her brother’s children being raised by this method.

I would also like to mention that Jennifer has been reporting on a very serious abuse case called, The Twelve Tribes in Germany. She has put a lot of work into this, tirelessly translating and transcribing from German, for the English speaking world to read.

Here is what she has so far:  part 1part 2 part 3part 4part 5part 6, part 7part 8part 9,part 10,  part 11part 12, part 13part 14 and part 15.

 

In Memory of Lydia Schatz – 4 years

It has been 4 years since we lost Lydia Schatz.  TulipGirl has a moving post about her which she posted 3 years ago.  Since her blog seems to be down right now, I am linking to it on the WayBackMachine.  <3  RIP Lydia

Please pray for her siblings, it must be a very hard day for them.  I know that there is very little sympathy for her parents in this world, but I believe that they are repentant and am also praying for them.

The Christian Post Looks At The Petition To Amazon

The Christian Post reports that the Change.org petition (asking Amazon to stop selling the controversial book, To Train Up A Child) is closing in on 100,000 signatures. They then take a closer look at the Pearls’ teachings and the controversy surrounding them.

Elizabeth Esther’s Story of Healing

Elizabeth Esther shares a “deleted scene” from her new book, Girl at The End of the World: my escape from fundamentalism in search of faith with a future” (available March 18, 2014). She explains,

It is the story of my two-week stay at a retreat center specializing in emotional healing and codependency issues. I am sharing this story in the hopes that those who have suffered similarly will know they are not alone and those in positions of religious authority will understand the devastating, long-term impact of spiritual abuse.