Review of TTUAC on HeraldNet

Jenny Bardsley has a post on HeraldNet honoring Hana Alemu “Williams” and reviewing the Pearl’s book, To Train Up A Child.

Doug Phillips Being Sued By Former Nanny

Doug Phillips stepped down last October after admitting to an inappropriate relationship with a woman.

On March 27, the Christian Post reported that he was threatening his closest friends of conspiring to destroy him.

On April 14, WND reported that Lourdes Torres, Doug Phillips former nanny, was suing him.

Vision Forum denied the allegations on their Facebook wall.

So, You Think Spanking Is OK Because You Turned Out Fine?

Samuel Martin has a new blog post entitled, “So you think corporal punishment/spanking/smacking is ok because you turned out fine: Think again”.

News Article About Stephanie Cox

The Southern Illinoisan has an article about Stephanie Cox and and how she came to write a gentle Parenting book with her nose.

Here is more information about Stephanie Cox.

Gentle Firmness by Stephanie Cox Needs Reviews

Stephanie Cox’s book, Gentle Firmness is now available  everywhere books are sold.  You can find it at Amazon.com as well as Barns And Noble.

If you have read the book (or the rough draft of it when it was here on this site,) please go and leave your review.

If you have not had a chance to read it, you can still read some large excerpts here.

Bill Gothard Resigns

Religion News Service reports that Bill Gothard has resigned from his position after being put on administrative leave following allegations of abuse.

 For background info about Bill Gothard, please see this post from Cindy, written a few days before his resignation.

Bill Gothard In The Spotlight After Abuse Allegations

World Mag Reports that Bill Gothard has been placed on administrative leave while they research recent  allegations of abuse.

Sarah Pulliam Bailey has an investigative report on this story on ReligionNews.com and here is the story from the Christian Post.

Naturally this story has impacted many people. Here is a testimony from Micah Murray which reflects on this news as he looks at Growing Up in Bill Gothard’s Homeschool Cult.

 

Why Heather Schopp Stopped Spanking

Heather Schopp explains how she came to give up spanking in this testimony shared on Samuel Martin’s blog. This blog post is part of a Facebook discussion found here.

Dara Stoltzfus has this and other testimonies here.

Kansas Spanking Bill Dies In Committee

The Kansas bill which would allow spanking in schools as well as allowing parents to swat children up to 10 times and leave bruising without legal repercussions has died in committee.  Here are 2 stories about that:

Spanking bill dies in Kansas House committee from the Wichita Eagle

Kansas Makes Us Proud! Backward Bill Expanding Spanking Rights in Schools Dies in Committee from Take Part

Kansas Bill Would Allow Spanking in Schools

Fox News reports that in Kansas there is a bill proposing allowing spanking in schools.   Supporters claim that it would help children learn to respect authority.  This bill would allow parents, and those to whom they give permission, to leave redness and bruising.

The Wichita Eagle has more information about the spanking bill.  Apparently they are trying to define the difference between corporal punishment and abuse and protect parents from legal retribution when they hit a child under those guidelines.  This is generating a lot of controversy, I will keep my eyes on it.

Stopspanking.org analyses this issue here and reports that the bill is considered highly unlikely to pass.

Child Abuse in Germany

Jennifer Stahl has been explaining about child abuse going on in German churches on her Blog, Yeshua Hineni. In this post she writes about the Pearl’s book To Train Up A Child which, while not being sold, is available “under the table.”  She Translates and transcribes a video about the concerns one woman has for her brother’s children being raised by this method.

I would also like to mention that Jennifer has been reporting on a very serious abuse case called, The Twelve Tribes in Germany. She has put a lot of work into this, tirelessly translating and transcribing from German, for the English speaking world to read.

Here is what she has so far:  part 1part 2 part 3part 4part 5part 6, part 7part 8part 9,part 10,  part 11part 12, part 13part 14 and part 15.

 

In Memory of Lydia Schatz – 4 years

It has been 4 years since we lost Lydia Schatz.  TulipGirl has a moving post about her which she posted 3 years ago.  Since her blog seems to be down right now, I am linking to it on the WayBackMachine.  <3  RIP Lydia

Please pray for her siblings, it must be a very hard day for them.  I know that there is very little sympathy for her parents in this world, but I believe that they are repentant and am also praying for them.

The Christian Post Looks At The Petition To Amazon

The Christian Post reports that the Change.org petition (asking Amazon to stop selling the controversial book, To Train Up A Child) is closing in on 100,000 signatures. They then take a closer look at the Pearls’ teachings and the controversy surrounding them.

Elizabeth Esther’s Story of Healing

Elizabeth Esther shares a “deleted scene” from her new book, Girl at The End of the World: my escape from fundamentalism in search of faith with a future” (available March 18, 2014). She explains,

It is the story of my two-week stay at a retreat center specializing in emotional healing and codependency issues. I am sharing this story in the hopes that those who have suffered similarly will know they are not alone and those in positions of religious authority will understand the devastating, long-term impact of spiritual abuse.

Book About Fight to Save Children from Faith-Healing Homicide

I received a comment, informing me about a book which mentions the Pearls. This book has gotten good and interesting reviews and I thought it might be of interest. Here is an radio chat with the author, Cameron Stauth.

If you do not want to read the whole book, you can see a preview on Google Reads.  There is a search function for if you wish to find the part where the Pearls are mentioned.

On a side note, the review I linked above mentions Scientology.  That reminds me of a very interesting video I saw lately in which the great-grandson of L. Ron Hubbard exposes the family secrets about the beginning of Scientology.

What Is A Helpmeet?

If you think that woman was made only to serve man then you need to read Dan Wilkin­son’s explaination of what the Bible means by Helpmeet.

International Business Times Looks At The Pearls

Today the International Business Times featured an article about the pressure being put upon Amazon to stop selling the Pearls’ book, To Train Up A Child.  This is a very good article except for a small confusion about the children who have been killed.  Sean “Paddock” was killed in 2006, Lydia “Schatz” in 2010 and Hana “Williams” in 2011.  For more information about what the Pearls’ teachings had to do with the death of Lydia, please see my post, Why Blame The Pearls At All and for more information about what the Pearls’ teachings had to do with the deaths of Sean and Hana, please see Why Blame The Pearls At All Part 2.

Gentle Firmness, now available!

Maybe you saw Steph’s series which previewed here in 2011. It started with, Spanking is NOT God’s Will, followed by The Christian History of Spanking, The Effects Of Spanking and ended with Discipline Without Harm.   Well, she has turned it into a Gentle Parenting book which is now available!  You can either order the print version or download e-book here.  If you would like an idea of what the book is like, there are still a few chapters of her rough draft here.  Congratulations Steph! May God be glorified.

Did Batman Follow Pearl’s Teachings?

Chris Gavaler compares Michael Pearl to Batman as he reviews his Comic Book Bible in The Good And Evil Guide To Parenting.

An Interview With Michael Pearl’s Nephew

Alicia Bayer has an interview with Michael Bailey who is Michael Pearl’s nephew.  He discusses his childhood, Michael Pearl and the book he is writing to refute his teachings in, Michael Pearl’s nephew speaks out on God, beatings and To Train Up a Child.

Also, today Margot Peppers has an article about the Pearls and their book, To Train Up A Child, in the Mail Online: Inside the extreme child-rearing guide that advocates whipping children with belts and branches. . . and has been linked to three deaths in seven years.

Michael Pearl and Elizabeth Esther on BBC Radio

Yesterday the BBC had Michael Pearl and Elizabeth Esther on their radio talk show, World Have Your Say.  The segment about Michael Pearl and his teachings begins at 27:16.  They also have a few other guests discussing the teachings after Elizabeth Esther and Michael Pearl have their discussion/debate.

I am encouraged that Mr. Pearl has started back pedaling a bit and even said to stop hitting a 9 month old’s knuckles after 3 strikes with a spatula because it is clearly not working.  Of course, he qualifies it that the parent is not doing something right and must regroup and start over, but I am so thankful that he is starting to admit that it might not be working and that one should stop.   It would be great if he would admit that his method will not work for every child and even better if he would decide that there are better ways of getting the attention of a 9 month old than inflicting physical pain and that conditioning children is very unhealthy for them, but I must rejoice in any improvement.  When Elizabeth pointed out  that he was contradicting his book, he just brushed her off.   Hopefully, he will continue to promote guidelines of when things are not working and make sure that all his followers hear it.

The BBC Looks At The Pearls’ Training Book

Aiden Lewis of The BBC has a well researched article about the book, To Train Up A Child by Michael and Debi Pearl as well as the controversy which surrounds it.

Who Wants To Be Interviewed For A News Story?

A writer from The Verge is working on a story about the Pearls for publication on The Verge website. He would like to talk with anyone who has experience with the book or the Pearls firsthand. If you are interested in taking part in this, please send me (hermanalinda@whynottrainachild.com) your contact info and I’ll pass it on to him.

Should A Christian Let A Baby “Cry It Out?”

Elrena Evans looks at Crying It Out from a Christian Point of View in Christianity Today.  This is not a new article, but I just found it.  It is a response to an article in Psychology Today called, Dangers of Crying It Out by Darcia Narvaez, Ph.D.

Escaping Abuse

Kathryn Joyce has an article about young adults who were homeschooled by controlling, fundamentalist parents called, The Homeschool Apostates.

Cindy Kunsman shares about how she came to realize that she was involved in an abusive church in, When your Religious Leader Falls Off the Pedestal.

You also might be interested in Cindy’s post about Understanding the Cycle of Spiritually Abusive Groups.

Cindy’s series continues with After the Epiphany Moment: Making Sense of Your History in Light of Spiritual Abuse.

To Condition Up A Child?

Michael Pearl says that his teachings are Biblical.  Lee Woofenden does not agree and he explains why in his post, To Train Up A Child, or: Spare the Rod? What Rod?  This is a long article and worth the read.  He points out, among other things, that Mr. Pearl is actually teaching parents to condition their children which is not Biblical.

The BBC Interview Is Over

A reporter from the BBC is working on a story about the Pearls for publication on the BBC website. He is doing a lot of research and would like to talk with someone who was raised by the Pearls’ methods. If you are interested in taking part in this, please send me (hermanalinda@whynottrainachild.com) your contact info and I’ll pass it on to him.

Thank you for your help, everyone.  The interview is over.  If I hear of another opportunity, I will be sure to post.  :-)

Vision Forum: Peter Bradrick Speaks

Peter Bradrick, once very close to Doug Phillips, has broken his silence. While we still have more questions than answers, this development is very much of interest to those who are following the Vision Forum saga.

Doug Phillips: “Disowns” Former Vision Forum Executive Assistant to President, Peter Bradrick, Calls Him “Destroyer” When Confronted about Sins from Spiritual Sounding Board.  In this post we are told who Peter Bradrick  is and that he has started posting some very interesting posts on Facebook publically.  Read the comments for interesting discussion.

Another interesting Facebook post from Peter Bradrick is this one in which he quotes Doug Phillips talking about how real men on the Titanic gave their lives for the women and children and then adds his commentary.

“For one thousand years, this principle has guided Western civilization. Simply stated, that principle is this: the groom dies for the bride, the strong suffer for the weak, and the highest expression of love is to give one’s life for another. The men aboard the Titanic recognized their duty because they had been raised in a culture that implicitly embraced such notions. Only by returning to these foundations can we ever hope to live in a society in which men will make the self-conscious decision to die so that women and children may live. This is the true legacy of the Titanic.” Douglas Phillips

When those who champion “women and children first” hide behind smooth words instead of “suffering for the weak”… When the strong take advantage of the weak, and then turn them out like so much garbage… When the strong seize the lifeboats and leave the weak drowning in the icy water… it leaves no choice for men of God other than to rise up and oppose them when they discover the truth. Woe to those that do not.

There are some interesting responses to that post. [Read more...]

Gentle Nighttime Parenting

Sarah Mae looks at gentle nighttime parenting in Maybe Your Two Year Old Just Needs You.

While we’re on the topic of nighttime parenting, here is something Steph from Grace For My Sheep wrote about sleep training.

 

Amazon Boycott

According to this tweet, Amazon has decided to not stop selling the controversial book, To Train Up A Child, by Michael and Debi Pearl.

Because of that, the petition drive has escalated into a boycott until Amazon removes To Train Up A Child in all formats.

More information can be found at the Facebook group Online retailers – we urge you to stop selling To Train Up A Child and the Twitter Account @BoycottAmazon1.

Meanwhile there is also a new petition to the UK Government, asking them to make it illegal to sell the book in the UK.  Of course, this petition may only be signed by British citizens and UK residents.  You can find more petitions at the bottom of this post.