Mixed feelings about Created To Be His Help Meet

Elizabeth, at Virginia Is For Mothers, reviews Created To Be His Help Meet. While she got a lot of positive things out of it, she has some concerns.  I am linking to this post for 2 reasons. 1) This is a good review to share with people who got a lot out of the book…

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Comforting Children in the Night

Nighttime parenting is very challenging.  We have a very physical need for sleep.  It is important to remember that our children have a very real need for comfort and that parenting is a 24 hour a day job.  Denying children Comfort in the night can have lasting repercussions as these memories from Discipleship Mothering demonstrate.

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Spiritual Abuse

Molly reviews and processes chapters 3 and 4 of The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse; Recognizing and Escaping Spiritual Manipulation and False Spiritual Authority within the Church By Jeff VanVonderan, and David Johnson. Speaking of spiritual abuse here are the signs of a Toxic Movement again.

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Another Pro-Spanker speaks out against Michael Pearl

Emily shares a quote from Michael Pearl and her response to it.  Ah, but she did not share where the quote can be found.  Lest anyone insist that they do not remember Mr. Pearl ever saying such a thing, I will share the citation.  It is from an article on the No Greater Joy Website…

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Biblical Distortion in the Patriarchy Movement

The Incorrigible Gingers exposes some Biblical Distortion of the Patriarchy movement and then links to a Times article about the Stay At Home Daughters Movement.  Sahd. The Patriarchy Movement sure fits the Signs of a Toxic Movement. While we’re on the subject of Patriarchy, I would like point out that even the Pearls have concerns…

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The Root Problem

Dulce de Leche uncovers the root problem with the punitive mindset in her post, Authority, Submission, Control and Discipline. Yes, the root problem is control. Now that you have seen why we should not try to control our children, Lucy explains why she cannot control her children and what that looks like in her house.

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The Schatz Abuse Story and the Paradise Post

As 2010 winds to a close, I am reflecting on the changes to this website.  I moved to this blog in March during the thick of the Schatz story.  Over the months I found more and more time passing between posts and started filling that time with posts about other controlling groups such as the…

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The Hows of Gentle Discipline

The Hippie Housewife explains The Hows of Gentle Discipline in a very helpful post.  This post is invaluable for anyone who wishes to give up spanking and needs help figuring out what to do instead.

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Lucy’s Story

Lucy tells her story at Dare To Disciple. She shares how her views of spanking have changed during her lifetime and why she feels that spanking and Christianity are incompatible.

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Carolyn’s Testimony in Response to the Shatz Story

Carolyn wrote  the following comment in response to That Mom’s post about Lydia Schatz and posted on my Facebook page. I can totally understand how this is completely attributible to the Pearls teachings. We were introduced to these teachings when my children were little, and I believed pretty much all of what they had to…

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Merry Christmas

Today we celebrate the greatest wonder of all.  God came down to Earth, clothed in human flesh in order  to pay for our sins.  In honor of this day, I would like to share this poem that my sister in Christ wrote. The greatest gift was given so many nights ago, he came to us…

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Encouragement for Gentle Parents

Carissa Robinson has noticed that her 2 year old son is Growing Up and starting to learn the lessons which she and her husband have been so gently and patiently teaching them.  What an encouraging post!

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Does Punishment Really Produce Godly Character?

I just found out about the group known as the Assembly under the ministry of George and Betty Geftakys. I had not heard of them before this, but as they were using the teachings of Michael and Debi Pearl (as well as Fugate and Ezzo,) they are of interest.  Apparently, they are another cultic and…

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Review of Good and Evil by Michael Pearl

Glenn E. Chatfield from Watchman’s Bagpipes reviews Michael Pearl’s Comic Book Version of the Bible (illustrated by a former Marvel cartoonist), Good and Evil.  He lists everything he considers to be unscriptural and/or extra-biblical.  His main concern is the inclusion of the “Gap Theory.”

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Bethany Breaks Free

Bethany Basset, of Coffee Stained Clarity, reflects on the sadness she feels at finding out that her high school friends are following the Pearls’ teachings. I see that Bethany was raised in the VF/Patriarchy mindset.  She posts her story in 5 parts: The Preface: The Stuff of Brains Part 1: The Net Part 2: The…

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Testimonies from No Longer Quivering Moms

No Longer Quivering has a new series called Steadfast Daughters in a Quivering World.   Part 4 of this series is Acknowledgment & Apologies which could be considered testimonies of the damage done by the quiverfull mindset.  Part 5: Confessions of a Quiverfull Hero and Part 6: Soul Binding are long testimonies about how raising children…

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Debra’s Random Thoughts

Deb at Debra’s Random Thoughts is no longer updating her blog.  Her blog is still worth visiting, as she has written some very interesting posts about the Pearls’ teachings. Check out, for instance, her critique of the story in To Train Up A Child where Debi trades blows with 2 yr old in order to…

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John Law and John Grace

Carissa Robinson (at To Parent As One Who Has Been Richly Forgiven) has posted The Story of John Law and John Grace which is an allegory which explains the difference between living under the law and living under grace. She then goes on to explain why Christians, who are living under grace, should also raise…

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Series about Patriarchy

E. Stephen Burnett has a teaching about the problems with Patriarchy in a 5 part series called, Sins Of The ‘Patriarchs’.  Interesting to me is that with all the words he has written about patriarchy, he never mentions spanking or harsh discipline.  He does mention control, but not the physical aspect (unless I’m misremembering.)  This…

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What is Grace Based Discipline?

The Web Magazine, Positively Feminine, is running a new series called, What Is Grace-Based Discipline? by PhenomoMom. I am quite impressed with this magazine and its contributors and suggest you check it out.

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Sharing Life With Your Children

GreenGem has an interesting post about her Wonderful Life. In this post she explains why she allows her young sons to jump on the couch and run around the house. She also explains how she does housework with her sons, including cooking and cleaning. Children learn a lot from such activities. I wish I had…

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Good Parenting Resources

Dulce de Leche shares how she rejected the teachings of Ezzo and Pearl and what she replaced them with in Christian Parenting Books: How Our Bookshelf Grew. She then shares her Christian Parenting Books Recommendations which is a very good resource. And here are her Discipline Books Recommendations. Back in April she shared another very…

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