Spanking to Remove Guilt?
Back in October of 2010, Michael Pearl published an article where he claimed that he had never taught that spanking absolves a child of guilt. He does, however, teach in that same article that they need the spanking in order to absolve themselves of guilt. It is clear in all my writing that the forgiveness…
Read MoreBear Mother vs Tiger Mother
Dulce de Leche has posted a long excerpt from an article written by Samuel Martin called, The Tiger Mother vs The Bear Mother in which he looks at Christian mothering.
Read MoreThe Burden of Legalism
Rach at the Incorrigible Gingers posts about the Burdens legalistic teachers are placing on the Believers’ backs. Speaking of Legalism, there is an interesting article at NLQ about Why the Quiverfull Movement is called Legalistic? .
Read MoreGentle Discipline 102
So, if we should not spank our children, how then should we discipline them? We have started looking at gentle discipline. Purple Kangaroo has a long post explaining her methods of Handling Hitting and Hurtful Words. So, what about time outs? Are they a good tool? The Peaceful Housewife looks at that in To The…
Read MoreTowel folding
The Peaceful Housewife has a very thought provoking post about the messages we give our children about themselves when their efforts are never good enough in Towel Folding Lessons. We must be careful because this is what she discovered: I was passing along my perfectionist, performance-based tendencies and my codependency to my sweet, innocent little…
Read MoreSuffer The Little Children
The website, Suffer The Little Children, belongs to Joan Vasquez, the writer of the Rod Study. She has many interesting articles as well as an interview of the author of Biblical Parenting, Crystal Lutton. This website is an invaluable resource and I recommend that you read it thoroughly.
Read MorePositively Feminine’s Review of TTUAC
Brenda King at Positively Feminine has posted a review of To Train Up A Child. This is an excellent review containing quotes from the book and Biblical arguments against the teachings.
Read MoreParenting 101
Carissa Robinson has posted some fundamentals of gentle parenting. Just think of it as Parenting 101. (Note that I also updated the post below this one with one new link)
Read MoreIn Memory of Lydia Schatz
Sunday, Feb 6, 2011 was the first anniversary of the death of Lydia Schatz. Here are the posts I have found in memory of her so far In memory of Lydia Schatz by ukrainiac in which she gives a brief summary of the story and links to Tulip Girl’s post. Remembering Lydia Schatz by Tulip…
Read MoreSpanking is NOT God’s Will Part 8
More information on the Book, Gentle Firmness, by Stephanie Cox ( part 1 ) ( part 2 ) ( part 3 ) What is grace? This is the question running through my head as I wrestle with a bit of discouragement as children continue to be harmed by well-meaning people who want so badly to…
Read MoreSchatz One Year Anniversary
On February 6, 2010, Lydia Schatz died from kidney failure allegedly brought on from corporal punishment. Her parents were arrested and her siblings were questioned. The other children co-operated fully with all adults. They answered questions calmly and completely, explaining how Lydia had been having switching sessions because she would not comply. They explained how…
Read MoreReview of Shepherding A Child’s Heart
Gentle Christian Mothers reviews Shepherding A Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp. This is the first in a series of posts highlighting the different procedures given by various Christian authors on the proper way to spank. I’m hoping to show that there isn’t a biblical way to spank, but that the views on so-called biblical spanking…
Read MoreProdigal Son
Carissa Robinson reflects at how spanking is hitting no matter how it is done and then looks at what we can learn about God in the story of The Prodigal Son.
Read MoreBook Review of Thy Rod and Thy Staff, They Comfort Me, Part I
Dulce de Leche has posted part 1 of a book review of Samuel Martin’s book, Thy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me: Christians and the Smacking Controversy. Here is a small quote from her review: Honestly, I can’t imagine any serious student of the Bible reading this and still believing that spanking is Biblically…
Read MoreLetters to Dobson
Discipleship Parenting wrote a Letter to Dr. James Dobson. It is a lovely letter, you should take a look at it. In it she gives a testimony of how his teaching on spanking hurt her family and how they found something better. She got a reply from Focus on The Family defending their stance. She…
Read MoreIs Punishment Biblical?
Rach at The Incorrigible Gingers discusses the question, “Is Punishment Biblical?” Notice that she is not just referring to corporal punishment here but all punishment. Now, that is a really radical thought.
Read MoreTTUAC: The Good, The Bad and The Shocking
Elizabeth, at Virginia Is For Mothers, reviews To Train Up A Child. In part 1 she shares her overall reaction which is mixed, and then what she found Good and Helpful about the book. I agree that there are some good and helpful messages in that book. To say otherwise is to put up a…
Read MoreBrandy Explains How She Disciplines
Brandy of Brandy’s Brood tried the Pearls’ method and found it to have a very negative impact on their toddler so they gave up spanking and moved towards more gentle discipline. She tells her story in her post, Ask Brandy: Discipline. While still using non-corporal punishments, they strive to be gentle and are still on…
Read MoreMyth Busting
Claire has been doing some Myth Busting over at Dare to Disciple. Today I would like to feature Myth Busting 3: Backtalk, Consistency and the United Front. For your convenience, here are her previous posts: Myth Busting 2: ‘Pick your battles’ Myth Busting 1: ‘A rod for your own back’
Read MoreSpanking is Wrong
Molly explains why spanking is wrong according to the Bible.
Read MoreWho is God?
Molly asks, “Who is God?” as she shares her testimony of how she learned to see God as a Gentle Parent, rather than a Vengeful Judge.
Read MoreYou Always Hurt The One You Love?
Molly remembers the messages she got as a child that parents must hurt their children because they love them. What kind of damage does that do to a child? And speaking of damage. What kind of damage is done to a child who is given a Roy Lessin spanking for every infraction? Especially when not…
Read MoreScriptural Tofurkey
GreenGem at Dare to Disciple explains what Scriptural Tofurkey is in this very interesting and thought provoking analogy.
Read MoreMixed feelings about Created To Be His Help Meet
Elizabeth, at Virginia Is For Mothers, reviews Created To Be His Help Meet. While she got a lot of positive things out of it, she has some concerns. I am linking to this post for 2 reasons. 1) This is a good review to share with people who got a lot out of the book…
Read MoreComforting Children in the Night
Nighttime parenting is very challenging. We have a very physical need for sleep. It is important to remember that our children have a very real need for comfort and that parenting is a 24 hour a day job. Denying children Comfort in the night can have lasting repercussions as these memories from Discipleship Mothering demonstrate.
Read MoreSpiritual Abuse
Molly reviews and processes chapters 3 and 4 of The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse; Recognizing and Escaping Spiritual Manipulation and False Spiritual Authority within the Church By Jeff VanVonderan, and David Johnson. Speaking of spiritual abuse here are the signs of a Toxic Movement again.
Read MoreAnother Pro-Spanker speaks out against Michael Pearl
Emily shares a quote from Michael Pearl and her response to it. Ah, but she did not share where the quote can be found. Lest anyone insist that they do not remember Mr. Pearl ever saying such a thing, I will share the citation. It is from an article on the No Greater Joy Website…
Read MoreA Few Tools That Have Worked
To help us expand our Gentle Discipline Toolbox, Carissa Robinson shares A Few Tools Which Have Worked For Her Sweet Little Guy.
Read MoreInstant Obedience or Compliance
Molly explains the dangers of training children for Instant Obedience or Compliance in this testimony about a young lady and the abuse of authority outside the home.
Read MoreSpanking is NOT God’s Will Part 3
( Part 1 ) ( Part 2 ) I finished Samuel Martin’s book, Thy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me today. Here’s more of what I have learned about God’s Word. Many Christian advocates of spanking children quote the following Proverb in order to support their philosophy that spanking children will save their souls from Hell. It says:…
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